Diary of a Working Married Mother: Men and their egos

But where do men get such huge egos from? Yesterday I watched one of these soaps on TV, one of the few that have managed to get me interested. As all soaps go, it is about love, unrequited love, jealousy, money and all that. Unlike most soaps though, the themes seem more real. So anyway, a rich man proposes to a woman who has warned him, that she could never love him as she did her first boyfriend. In fact, she says she cannot love him, although she does likes him a lot and is indebted to him. He accepts to live with that and they marry. First boyfriend of the woman turns up. Although she is happy to see him, she keeps her distance, ensures she does not meet him alone or in secluded places and respects his wife. But her husband is not happy at all and starts to beat her.

What annoyed me the most was that this husband slept with an ex of his the same night he hit his wife, claiming she is in love with another man. Although there is all proof to show that his wife is not cheating on him, he is still mad at her. How does that work? How dare you accuse someone of cheating on you and in the same breath you cheat on her? What makes it okay for you to do what you do not want your partner to even think about? Do such men think they are more superior to women?

They probably do, considering something I heard a former workmate say some years back. We were arguing about people cheating on the other. This workmate said, it was normal for men to cheat – sometimes even necessary. The debate got heated. So one of us asked him if it would be okay for his daughter’s husband or partner to be cheat on her. “No!” he bellowed. “No one should do that to my daughter!” So how come you are okay doing that to someone else’s daughter, we asked back. That sort of shut him up for a few minutes, but he clearly was not convinced about the fact that anyone in a relationship, be it male or female should not cheat. Such things just rile me up! In such situations, it is just despicable for a man, like the soap actor, to ask his wife to do as he says and not as he does.

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