Man Talk: How do you propose the domestic roles be shared?

The women complain about the men not wanting to help out with the household chores, the men on the other hand scream out at women keeping out or over-stepping their boundaries when it comes to money issues. How is it the men would rather these responsibilities were allocated fairly? They tell us.

Jamie
Anyways, we all have roles. As time goes by, even when you have not spoken about them, you just fall in line. It is usually the case that we are inclined to do those things that are easy for us to do. If I am a good cook and my wife is not (and I enjoy cooking), that would probably become my role (thank God I am not a good cook and I am not that interested in cooking). So, yeah, if one of the partners goes out one day and tried to get the other to do what is not “their role,” there’s going to be problems.

Benjie
“Homey” things like shopping for food, knowing which supplies have run out, cooking--i dont know how to cook--hiring house helpers, things like that I think are in the genetics of women to manage.

Men on the other hand are better at buying and fixing the heavier stuff. For example, if the women was fixing a leaking roof or a faulty tap, that would be wrong in much the same way that a woman would expect her man to be on the look out for dirt.

The man is supposed to fend and is supposed to foot bills that exceed a certain amount. Which means that a woman can/may spend up to about 200k or so and any home expenditure above that is for the man to take care of.

Eugene Mugisha
Things to do with the kitchen and the general day to day running of the home definitely not my department. i shd only come in in times of dire crisis, or when we are getting evicted for rent... hehehe

The Guys
Benjie, the liberal: 27, single and around
Eugene Mugisha: 28, “the dating guru”
Andrew, just Andrew: 29, In a relationship
Jamie, the realist: 35, married, with two children

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