Single in the City: Seriously men

A friend of a friend is having problems with her husband. Live-in boyfriend actually, but she calls him her “husband” so I am learning to see him as that. Anyway back to the problem.

According to him, she is not the woman he fell in love with, “you used to look like Samantha, now you are about to burst,” he says referring to a stick thin contestant in the last Tusker project fame.

Now, unless we are talking about ‘Hollywood fat’ which is basically anyone whose bones are not showing, this girl is not fat. She is not even ‘curvy’ which I have learnt is the politically correct term for fat or fat to come.

So, she does not have a washboard stomach, or is not the size she was when she was 19, but she doesn’t have rolls of fat either. She should be proudly showing off her size eight body in little tight outfits.

Instead she is going out of her head trying to starve herself, buying expensive slimming products, and exercising her butt off. Nothing is happening, which doesn’t surprise me because well, you cannot lose what you do not have now can you?

Where am I going with this? I sympathise with her because I have been there. I dated a guy who would never miss an opportunity to tell me how fat I looked, never mind that we met me when I was that same size. By the time I realised that nobody should put me through that especially when I love them with all their flaws, I had been through every diet found online. It ended when I told him that yes, I may not be a lingerie model but he was not Will Smith either. Actually I was not as polite, but you get the point.

I don’t think this girl will have that chance seeing as she has already chosen this man to be her husband. I can’t imagine what will happen when the real weight actually comes on because it will, sooner or later. Will he throw her out; drive her to an eating disorder?

The worst part though is like a zillion other men who rush to remove the speck from their women eyes while they have a log in theirs. For example this girl’s man is a pale shadow of his former self, thanks to indulging in one too many beers. He is missing a few teeth, and has the beginnings of pot belly .How I wish I could point them out for her!

So men can joke so I am going to say this once on behalf of all women. When it comes to body insecurities, we do just fine without your input thanks, so stop pointing our weight out!

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