Be aggressive yet gentle as you approach her
Posted Sunday, September 29 2013 at 00:00
If you want a woman’s attention, settle for a quiet place and talk less and you might want to use her friends as a stepping stone.
Let us be honest, a stunning woman is never alone. She is always with her friends, most of who are not as charming as herself. So question is, how do you manage to approach that woman you are interested in while she is with her friends? I know you should introduce yourself to all the women in the group but how do you make your intentions known on which one you are hitting on or are interested in?
A group of women in a room has an overbearing power. And the more women that are in the group, the more they can strike out like a regimented squad. Dividing and conquering is your best bet, and it takes patience and a strong game plan.
Moses Asiimwe, a businessman says, “There is a woman I liked but she was always with her friends. It was hard for me to approach her but I used to say hi whenever I saw her. I openly told her I liked her and I think she told her friends about it. It simplified things because whenever I wanted to talk to her, her friends would just walk away. However, I say hello to all of them on a regular basis. Now I am dating this woman but I am also friends with her crew.”
Befriend the leader of the group
According to Annet Achan, a fashion designer at Uzuri Fashion House, “Find the ‘mother hen’ , identify the leader of the pack and find out how closely she holds her chicks together. If you have sold them with your original approach, they will drop their guards and consider you a non-threat. This is the right time to make your move. Earning the trust of the pack is the only way to draw her into a more intimate setting,” she tips men on how to get to that beautiful woman in the group.
Go with your friends
There is strength in numbers, and if you are approaching a bigger group, the more sense it makes to bring friends. ”Your friends can help take the tension off so you can entertain and socialise with the other women while you focus your efforts on the belle of your choice. This is a win-win scenario for both groups because the ladies might find a variety of personalities far more interesting than one pathetic guy putting all of his efforts on the line,” advises Alex Ediu, a sales agent at Awdisonic Limited.
However, Rachael Ninsiima, a third year student at Makerere University, hints that there is an important rule. “Never arrive at their doorstep with all the guys at once. It will look like you’re just a pack of horny, lousy dudes. Get the smooth, sharp talker in your group to go up first, and have him immediately start introducing friends, one-by-one. This will make it seem like you do not have a target woman. It will make it seem like you are just random guys who have come to socialise,” she urges.
Be nice to her friends
I am not a love guru but, who does not know that you ought to be extremely friendly and charming to friends of the woman you are interested in? But also keep in mind that most women play games. Do not get stepped upon. And yes, friends of your womanfriend like to do things for you. Make them do you little favours. Reward them with a smile and a “thanks”.
While talking to this woman, always keep a woman who you are going to try if you get rejected with this woman. This takes unnecessary attention off her and keeps you from getting desperate.