Discovering lies about her two dates later

Douglas Musuza broke up with his new girlfriend; they had hardly seen each other for two months. Musuza usually takes time in a relationship and never breaks up with a girl so soon. He sticks there until he can hold on no more.
This time though, he came home looking miserable. Up on my probe into what the matter was, Musuza told me he had broken up with Teddy. Unbelievable! “On our first date she appeared more like my dream partner! After meeting for a couple of times, I realised lapses. Well, I gave the blind eye to all these but the day I discovered she had lied to me about her tribe all along, was the final day we called it quits,” narrates Musuza.

She fronted wrong job title
Musuza’s ordeal may seem trivial compared to others. Teddy Adongo, a mother of four and a relationship counsellor, says her friend Musa loathed the lie his girlfriend had kept from him . “The woman lied to him that she was a personal asistant to a high profiled person yet she was a salon attendant . My friend is a lawyer! Her lie was discovered when she bumped into Musa’s sisters at her work place. Musa vowed never to meet that woman again,” Adongo narrates her friend’s ordeal. Adongo had advised the two to look at the reasons they had loved each other. “Musa’s girlfriend told me what had happened but my efforts to reconcile the two were fruitless.”
“I think honesty in a relationship wins over someone’s heart,” Adongo adds.

Why you should open up
When Steven Masaba, 34, discovered that the woman he had been dating now his wife, had been a prostitute in Mbarara, he never came home for a week. The wife didn’t know.
“My wife did not know I had discovered what she had been keeping behind my back. I met one of the people she used to work with and this infuriated me. Why could she lie to me?”
“I went to my mother and stopped taking my wife’s calls for one week. I later returned and we discussed. She apologised and said she never wanted to lose me and go back to that kind of life again,” says Masaba.
Adongo says telling your partner the truth about you is more helpful than letting them discover for themselves.
“It is always good for you to tell your partner what you are because they will love you for that and nothing else. So be the first to tell them the wrong you have done and see if they will forgive you, normally its better this way,” advises Adongo.
WIlbroad Kakuru, an engineer, says he broke up with the woman he says might have been his dream wife because of lying about her first born. “When I discovered her child whom her mother was looking after, and confronted her, she became moody. Before I knew it, she had blocked all communication channels. Had she opened up about the child earlier, we would have forged a way forward,” Kakuru says. He felt there was more to her than the child.
We all have a past but strive hard to make the present better. Honesty does not reduce your worth.