Sunday June 8 2014

Unflattering youth behaviour

By Pauline Bangirana

Recently, I was in a taxi when a young man -could be in his early 20s, boarded the same taxi at the Bweyogerere taxi stage. Unfortunately, it was raining heavily and the young man quickly entered the taxi without minding his neighbour, an old woman.

“Muvubuka situkako otudde ku lugoye lwange (Young man get up, you are seated my cloth),” said the woman to the young man. This was not rude but the young man immediately talked back at the woman saying all the obscenities that when I was growing up, my mother beat me if I ever mentioned any of them.

The woman told the young man to stop insulting him because she was old enough to be his mother and in response, “welabe oba osobola onkunzaala gwe. Gwe toyinza kuba maama wange. (You are unfit to be my mother),” He answered back.

Well, the argument went on and on until I made a stop and I had to get off the taxi. I do not know how the argument ended, but clearly the young man was in wrong and he did not seem bothered that insulting someone older than him is wrong and he could receive a curse for that. But, who is to blame because most of the youth and young children nowadays are totally misbehaving and there is nothing much we can do about it?

Where children are raised
“Children who misbehave at times have been raised in multiple places and as such they pick all the bad habits from those places,” Doreen Nafuna, a hair dresser says.

However, she adds that in most cases, it is the parents to blame for the children’s misbehaviour because the parents failed to teach them that elders should be respected.

The society or community is no longer communal as it was before and generations are drastically changing. It is more of every family for itself and nobody to look out for the neighbour. But who is to blame for this misbehaviour? Should it be the parents, fellow peers or even the community at large?
“There is some negligence on the side of the parents because some parents do not want to advise their children when they are still young. So when the children grow a little older, they find such behaviour in the community and since they were not reprimanded or advised when were still young, it becomes hard for them to straighten, hence the misbehaviour,” Hope Moligi, a businesswoman notes.

When parents are too busy
But what happens when the parents are preoccupied all the time? Harriet Nungi, a businesswoman, notes that for the misbehaviour of the children nowadays, parents are to blame.
“In most cases, it is the parents’ responsibility to ensure that their children are well behaved. There is failure by the parents to reprimand children in the name of showing them so much love,” she notes.

Parents’ care matters
If a child feels that their parents do not complain about their behaviour, they will not mind about the other members of society.

She advises that in such cases, parents should try and follow up on who their child has been with, especially if they do not spend the entire day with the child at home.
She also notes that a parent should not entirely trust a maid with their child and try as a parent to find time for their child.

Maybe the woman was wrong, I do not know but for whichever reason, elders should always be respected. Even when they push us to the limits, they are older, period.
Parents, it is your sole responsibility to ensure that your children are a darling and not a nuisance to society. However bad one might be, you do not want your children being looked at as social misfits.
The time is now to act and save yourselves the embarrassment.