Thursday September 27 2018

Dear ex, you cannot date my friend or sister

Dear ex you cannot date my friend sister

Just imagine a battle someone goes through in an effort to move on from a relationship that tore him/her apart and just when you are almost over him/her, she/he returns and instead teams up with your friend or sibling. COURTESY PHOTO 

By Christine Nakalungi

Dear ex, maybe you did not get the memo before we started dating but allow me to enlighten you. You only had one chance to date from my family or social circle, if you chose to date me once then you lost the right to ever date anyone else who is close to me.

Yes, you cannot claim to move on while still switching your feelings from one sister to another or from one friend to another. If I may ask, why would you even choose someone close to me? Do you want to throw it in my face that I was not good enough? Or, are you trying to strip me of my right to have a life without you being involved?

First, you take away my right to have a boyfriend and now you also want to leave me without a sister or friends? No my dear. There are millions of women out there and if you want, I can help you sign up on dating sites but please do not date my friend or sister.

You might wonder why someone may involve an ex if she or he has moved on. Well, two weeks ago I bumped into a former workmate, she was holding hands with a man I also recognised. Jimmy once dated her sister and the shock on my face could not go unnoticed. I gave Jimmy a blazing stare that he stammered as he tried to explain, “Sarah and I ended the relationship long ago. As a matter of fact, she is married.”

I frowned and once I walked away from them, I called Sarah. “Hey girl, I just bumped into your baby sister Lisa...” before I could even finish the statement, Sarah said, “Do not tell me about that witch.” My heart sunk. The two sisters were once inseparable but now cannot see eye to eye because of an ex.

“I hate my sister because whenever I invite her for any family gathering, she shows up with Jimmy. I wonder why he decided to date my sister out of all the women on the planet,” she added. This broke my heart and I imagined how I would feel if my ex ever did the same to me.

Just imagine a battle someone goes through in an effort to move on from a relationship that tore him/her apart and just when you are almost over him/her, she/he returns and instead teams up with your friend or sibling. This can be everyone’s nightmare and can drive anyone to madness.

So I think it is healthy if your ex stays far away from you and your family. You might call me selfish but I am totally not okay with my ex finding love among my friends or family. Will you be okay with your ex dating your friend or sister/brother?

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