Heart to Heart
He loves me, but I love him not
Posted Thursday, May 8 2014 at 01:00
Dear Heart to Heart, I met this man about two years ago. He asked me out and I turned down his advances. However, after insisting, I decided to go out with him, but with the hope that I would completely tell him off. We went to a nice place but he didn’t continue his pursuing. We just talked, shared jokes and had a good time - he was fun. He dropped me home and asked for another date. I like to go out with him but I don’t have feelings for him. He says he feels good and happy around me. Do you think keeping him around might give him false hope? I don’t want to completely lose him. What should I do? Please help!
Trust me, you are already in love with that person because if you didn’t love him, you wouldn’t have gone out with him. But you enjoy spending time with him. Stay around because you don’t know who is Mr Wrong or Mr Right. You will have his feelings soon.
You know love grows from nothing to something, so just keep him around. As time goes by you will start to like or hate him, depending on what he tells you about his future plans. He also shouldn’t change his attitude towards you in case you turn down his advances.
Next time he comes to you, ask him if it is fine to go out with your boy friend and him.
The fact that he makes you happy is a good thing. We learn to love, so just keep going out with him, because that’s an opportunity to learn him and his ways better. When the moment for love knocks, your heart, then you can take it on to the next level. I think it’s the best thing to do.
Why waste that chance? When you get a man who is really trustworthy, loving and kind, then get married because getting a man of that kind is not easy. You will regret if you turn him down.
You are a detoother! You would rather leave him since, after all, you don’t have feelings for him.
I still don’t understand it when women talk of ‘feelings’. All I know is that love is developed and is not based on some ‘feelings’.
Sometimes we do surround the wall of our hearts so thickly, not in the fear of being hurt, but to see who will penetrate the wall. Time is like a river, you can’t touch the same water that passes twice, because once it flows, it won’t pass again. Exploit the chance you get.
If you accepted to go out with him, and now you don’t want to lose him simply because you like his jokes, he is fun, then automatically you are about to fall in love with him.
Just give it some time, may be slowly you will fall in love with him. If it doesn’t work out, you can call it quits. Don’t stick around because he is nice, just follow your heart.
Dear Vivienne, the ball is in your hands now. If you don’t have feelings for him as you say, then let him be. Make up your mind once and for all. You contradict yourself – one part of you wants him dropped and another wants to hold on. You have to be one and not both. Alternatively, weigh both sides and the side with more points gets a win.
You your self are confused. Keep meeting him and see whether you develop feelings for him. If that fails, then just be friends.
Ha! You are only around him because he takes you out to nice places. Detoother! You should be arrested and charged with obtaining money by false pretence.