His ex is sewing my dress

The problem
Dear Heart to Heart, I need your help. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. He recently offered to make for me a dress, but he did not tell me it was his ex making it. I guess the reason he could not tell me was because he usually bad-mouths her. He also told me that he has not had any contact with her, but it slipped out during an argument. I am confused because we live in different places and only meet at the weekends. I work upcountry and now I am worried that he could be cheating on me. He has been acting suspicious lately, should I be worried?
-Sky
Your solutions

Danniella Kakunda: His ex is making for you a dress? Did he tell her it is your dress or he lied to her that it is for his sister? He only talks bad about her when he is with you, I guess so that you do not get suspicious. And If I may ask, why does he have to talk about her anyway? Take a close look, you will soon find out the truth, and put your suspicions to rest.

Smile Sulait Bin Rashid: My dear, don’t be worried lest you start losing trust in your man. When you fall in love, you do not look for a perfect person, but you can make an imperfect person perfect. Every one has past mistakes and we have to let them go. If you separate with someone, there is no need to make him or her your enemy but rather remain friends, so do not worry.

Josephine Bakka: No way, talk to him seriously how you feel about the whole situation.

Xyna Culture Z’zy Kassim: Why worry when you see him with his ex? If they love themselves, let them be, but still a man can be just friends with his ex just the same way you could be friends with your ex.

Atiting Recheal: Virtuous women do not worry about boyfriends but rather a husband. Are you okay?
Ask God to show you your husband, and pray for him to come quickly. Good luck.

Klean Counts: Just join the army and forget about relationships.

Otile Fred: Sure, there is something going on my friend.

Atyero Kerali Diana: Why should you get worried about someone who has not put a ring on your finger?

Tna Woods: Yes, you should be worried for wasting time. September is now four months to end the year.

Tara Racheal: Just trust him, that is enough not to make you worried.

Rasheed Sula: Any change in a human being, especially those in a relationship is a clear indication of something fishy. Someone says trust him, but how do you trust one who has changed? You will be a fool if you are going to keep quiet.

Rasheed Sula: Yes, of course, you should be worried because once you are married, never think of giving him a distance unless you want to follow the wind.

Florence Kabajwisa: Hmmm, just play your part and go on your knees for God’s guidance.

Tine Tine: Act as if you know nothing about it my dear, you will get to know the truth. But if you show him you are under pressure, you are gone.

Jingling Ronni: When you worry, you will die young. Try to investigate.

Aol Veuns Aggie: Take it easy my friend, and try giving him more time. And for his ex, forget about it. Do your things like a woman if you love him.

Mbabazi Josephine: Aren’t you busy upcountry? Just ignore, the truth will reveal itself.

Oulanyah Boniface Asahel: It is because you are still a girlfriend. Why don’t you settle? A boyfriend is for every girl. If you fail to satisfy him, you lose him.

Counsellor says> Joseph Musaalo, Adonai Counselling and Training Services
Dear Sky, it is unfortunate that this is happening to you. I would, however, advise that if you are sure that it is your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend who is making you the dress, then bring up the issue with evidence when you meet him again and discuss about it.
One of the issues that you could discuss with him is that if he accepts to leave his previous relationship and fall in love with you, he must accept to completely end any kind of communication between him and his ex-girlfriend. By the time you get to know information such as him making you a dress through the ex-girlfriend, moreover in an argument, it means that their relationship never ended and that they still communicate or even meet.
There is a high possibility that your boyfriend is still in a relationship with his ex and he never wants you to know about it. He could be taking advantage of you working upcountry to make up with the ex, which is portrayed, like you say, in him acting suspicious.
Create time, sit him down and talk about your relationship with him. It is common for many men to say they are friends with their exes but at times they make up even after entering into a new relationship with another woman. There is no way his ex-girlfriend will make you a dress even if he wants to give it to you as a gift. Explain to him that you are not comfortable with him being close to his ex-girlfriend.
If he does not change, then you should move on and wait for someone who will love you wholeheartedly instead of being with someone whom you suspect of cheating on you.

Compiled by Roland D. Nasasira

Next week’s problem
Dear Heart to Heart, I am 20 years old and I recently started dating an 18-year-old girl. It is only two weeks into our relationship that I learnt she was still in secondary school. The problem is that she does not want to live with her parents anymore. I consulted her parents since she was refusing to leave my place and they tried their best to take her home but she run back to my place. They warned me not to open my door for her, but she would come and sleep on my verandah. She is not attending school. It is difficult for me to help her because her parents warned me. What should I do? Please help. -Dion