His jealousy got us into trouble

James, or Jamie like he preferred to be called, was a very protective fella. Protective of his sisters, his friends who were girls, his girlfriend, his neighbours, basically every girl Jamie knew, he did not want guys messing with her. Which was very difficult to understand because, besides his sisters and girlfriend, why on earth would what these other girls he knew got into matter to him. He was always in some form of argument with one guy or another, warning people to stay away from girls.

In my opinion, he had serious problems. He needed medical attention. But, he was my friend, and besides this strange behaviour, he was an ok guy.
Martin, another friend of ours, was just unfortunate enough to develop feelings for Jamie’s young sister, Tina. For a while, it seemed like nothing much would become of that feeling, because Tina was in a relationship with another guy, and martin was too terrified of Jamie’s fury that he kept his feelings to himself. Until one day, Tina was suddenly single and available.
Martin asked me what he should do, because he really liked the girl and it would eat him alive to watch her get into another relationship when he wanted her more than anything else.

Without giving it careful thought, I told him to go ahead and tell her, and let whatever happens happen. Martin did just that. He told her. And for some reason I will never understand, she accepted. She knew he was Jamie’s friend. And she knew that of all things, Jamie would never allow his sister to date a friend of his.
But, she accepted anyway. And so began a secret relationship. I was fully aware of it, an accomplice, if I may be called that. So when Jamie came calling, I would not be spared. It did not take long for him to find out. His spy network or some bad wisher whispered things in his ear. Like an errant locomotive, he came for us.

First was his little sister Tina, whom he terrorised and she told him specifics, including me being the middle man. Next, he went for Martin. Martin stood his ground, told him he would date whoever he wished, Jamie had no say on him. Jamie warned Martin to stay away from Tina or there would be consequences. He did not elaborate the consequences, but that guy is crazy, it is not wise to dare him.
A few years back, he had beaten up some guy bad enough that he had to be hospitalised, just because the guy had touched Tina’s butt as they passed by.
Finally, he came for me. He accused me of betraying his trust, that I should have been on his side, and not let something like that happen. He accused me of being a liar, concluding that I was not his real friend.

But I had done nothing wrong. Tina and Martin were two young people in love, and Martin was a good guy, he was not a thug. Tina was in safe hands with him. But Jamie did not want to hear the names Martin and Tina in the same sentence.
He gave an ultimatum that if this relationship did not stop immediately, he would stop being friends with us. That was the last time I spoke to Jamie. Of course, Martin and Tina did not last, the pressure was too much. Relationships need a supporting structure, especially from family. And Tina was terrified of Jamie.

Signs that he is a jealous boyfriend

He gets angry easily. Everything you do seems to make him angry. And most of the times, you don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. It could be the simplest of things from spending a night partying with the girls or staying late at work. He doesn’t give you a chance to explain or even talk for that matter and usually you find that a night of fun is followed by him screaming away and ends with a major argument.
Not happy when you talk about others. Every time you talk excitedly about someone, he is visibly unhappy and uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter what gender but you see that it is worse when the person you talk about is of the opposite sex. Now I get why he would get mad if you spoke about a person all the time but if a simple, one off thing like describing how good a person is at his work or what fun you had with him should not upset him.

He’s possessive about you. Does he want to know where you are and with who all the time? Does he call incessantly when you are out with your friends? Does he insist on knowing what time you will be done? Agreed that a relationship comes with a certain amount of answerability But if too many questions follow, it may be a sign of jealousy.