It is never too late to rekindle a dying flame

What you need to know:

While you think of calling your madam or the Mr to ‘order’, cast your net wider, especially if you have children and see how you can fit them in to create stronger family bonds.

Everyone of us dreams of a happy family, something similar to that home in the neighbourhood or something close to that happy family in a movie you watched recently. But at every attempt at finding your dream, happiness seems to elude you.

Darling, you are not alone. There are many people out there in the same boat. Truth is, family happiness is one of those things that should be easy to achieve. All you have to do is prioritise it.

Some of you are probably still on holiday, so it is not too late to utilise the remaining days to build that which your heart desires. It is normally during such festive seasons that you can reflect on your relationship and be sure of positive results, because somehow everyone is in happy mode.

While you think of calling your madam or the Mr to ‘order’, cast your net wider, especially if you have children and see how you can fit them in to create stronger family bonds. Get it from me, no couple will ever be happy if one or two other members of the family are unhappy.

For example, when you decide to have a family meeting, let everyone express their feelings openly so that you can know whatever has been bothering them. In case they say you have been a monster (of course I doubt they will say it as it is), do not get all raged up.

It is normal that you will feel disappointed and mad, may be, but do not express it to them, just take time off and cool down and when you are ready, let them know why you acted that way at the time they considered you a monster.
Also, holidays should be family time, so see how you can spend the last few days in love; getting to know more about each other, sharing jokes and replaying the last year stories.

Remember, happiness is not something you achieve in a day, neither should it last only a day. If you have been the kind who just buys things to please your family, consider how much joy they would feel if you spent time with them. Forget the toys, clothes, jewellery, and just be there.

Time is the most precious resource you can ever share, so spend as much time with your family as they are a priority in your life; take a vacation, go for a picnic or do something that will create bonding time.

For those whose relationship is moving on well, do not relax. Figure out ways to make it more exciting and enjoyable this year. Things may be working now, but do not get comfortable, because routine may get boring at some point.
But whatever you do, remember to remain yourself, and try as much to do away with the disablers to your relationship last year; coming home late, getting distracted by trivial issues, entertaining negative third parties, and keeping a gloomy face.
Enjoy the New Year.