Love is not about cool things, but attention

He got the biggest surprise of his life when he realised that his girl was leaving him, and then another even bigger one, that she was leaving him for someone he considered ‘fake’.

The truth is; there is no manual, user guide or set rules to this whole dating thing, and definitely none to trying to figure out how girls think. See, there is the problem in itself, which we think of them collectively as ‘girls’, and do not deal with each on an individual basis. Right there is the shock that there is not one approach that works everywhere all the time. Come on man, girls are not like shoes.

True, it is a confusing game, but if you applied just a little common sense, a little humanity, then some things become not that complicated.

Anyway, this man got the biggest surprise of his life when he realised that his girl was leaving him, and then another even bigger one, that she was leaving him for someone he considered ‘fake’. What is a fake man? I do not know what a fake man is like, but according to this fella here that lost his girl, the man was fake because he was broke.

Yup, the fake man did not have the amount of money that our fella here had, and this made him fake because he had a fake car, lived in a fake house, and just was not as cool a man.
This automatically disqualified fake man, and all those in his caliber, from dating in the same circles as a cool man.
So he must have been very surprised when his girl told him she was leaving him, not for another cool man or even a cooler man, but for a fake one. “What did he have to offer you that I had not already given you?” asked Mr cool-man? She did not answer him, she simply left.

Mr cool-man knew she would be back soon; she would miss the cool life and would be back. And it would not be long before she came begging to be taken back, after all, all girls want cool things.

But she did not come back. she did not even answer his phone calls. It was not making sense to Mr cool -man. He asked her friends what was going on; was the girlfriend okay?

They assured him she was quite happy, and very settled in her new relationship, and in fact, it was a very serious relationship. Mr cool-man asked, “how? Is she happy? They don’t have a nice car, a nice house. They don’t hang out in cool places, and go to cool parties! How is she happy? What does she see in him?”

And girlfriend’s friends looked at Mr cool-man and did not know how to explain to him that love is not about cool things, but attention, care, appreciation, trust and such simple things that clearly eluded him. So they instead told him that she was that kind of girl, the kind that falls for ‘sillly small things’.

And Mr cool-man went away quite not convinced, but at least, he had understood the matter with his girl; she did not know what she wants. She was a loser. That is why she was now dating a loser. And he went back to his life of cool things.

In fact, there was another cool girl already on his case, and she liked his car. She was not as hot as his ex, she was not as patient, as kind, as caring but hey, who needed those things when you got money?

And so went on the illusion that Mr cool-man had about women; ‘all women like fancy things, the expensive stuff, life in the fast lane.

And if he was able to provide these things, then his woman was ok by all means. And when one complained, telling him he never paid her any attention, he treated her as if she was a parasite, he retorted by asking her if the brand new car he had just bought for her was not a clear sign of his love and attention for her. She left soon afterwards.

Her words
But she did not come back, she did not even answer his phone calls. It was not making sense to Mr cool-man. He asked her friends what was going on; was his girlfriend okay? They assured him she was quite happy, and very settled in her new relationship, and in fact, it was a very serious relationship. Mr cool-man asked, “how? Is she happy? They don’t have a nice car, a nice house. They don’t hang out in cool places, and go to cool parties! How is she happy? What does she see in him?”