Dear Heart to Heart, there is a girl I am planning to date! Our fathers are friends and we attended the same primary school. However, what complicates the matter is that after we completed primary school in 2005, we never made contact again, until recently when I traced her on Facebook.
I am 22 years old now and I think I am ready to start dating. I am currently pursuing my degree and she is almost finishing hers too. I don’t know whether she is seeing someone, but I believe we will make a good couple because apart from being from the same tribe and village, I am not a stranger to her. Can I go ahead and date her? Please advise me.
Follow your heart’s desire...go on please!
First, make her a close friend and study her behaviour because marriage is not about knowing her father or being her old schoolmate.
You are even late. Remember others are eyeing her too.
You can never know where you are going until you reach there. So, start the journey.
Are you waiting for bells?
Go in for her brother, she is still yours.
She might be a totally different person from the one you knew in primary school. First meet and study her afresh then your heart will know what to do. As for your parents being friends, it is only a pleasure.
Befriend her again, find out what is happening in her love world, then make a perfect move, because when you just go in anyhow, you may destabilise a stable relationship.
Go on please because she might be your future wife.
It is better for you to befriend her and first keep it at friendship level. Get to know whether she makes you happy, because you might rush to pour out your heart to her then realise she is no longer the person you would want to date. So, be patient and do what is right for you because it will pay off.
Visit her during her free evenings if time allows, share stories that can only make her happy about your primary life. You will understand her status in the process.
She might not know that you are interested in dating her, so it is better that you meet face to face and tell her what you really feel about her. That’s what will help you, instead of keeping it from her and at the end find out that she is taken by someone else!
First differentiate between tribe and clan because many people confuse them and if she is your clan, do not bother to date her. But if you find out otherwise, go slow you may not be sure of how she behaves.