Dear Heart to Heart, I am a Second Year student at the International University of East Africa. I have a girlfriend who I have dated for seven good years. Her parents are divorced, and only her mother knew about our relationship. Recently, however, her father married my sister, unknowingly of course. Now I am confused, should I leave my girlfriend or can we continue with our relationship? Please advise me.
Please Hamid, just do the right thing - abandon the relationship. He can’t be a father and brother in-law at the same time. lt’s mission impossible in terms of culture.
Dear Hamid, your situation is indeed hard. In such cases, doing the right thing is better than doing a good thing. A lot of things are good but not right. To continue with your girl is a good thing but it is not the right thing. If you and both families have no problem with it, then go ahead with her. However, talk to her mother about it and discuss in detail how to handle the situation. Whatever the outcome, I trust you won’t make a wrong choice.
It’s okay. Your in-law is not your close relative, therefore there is no problem with that. Pease listen to your heart and continue with her.
Why should you leave someone who loves you for the sake of your sister? Unless you don’t love her, you have a life and your sister has her life too. Don’t mix issues if you love that girl, carry on with your love. If you drop her, do you think your sister will drop him too? It’s non of your business man, live your life!
No problem, just continue with your business. He took your sister, take his daughter.
The father acted faster than you, so continue with your education, your true wife is there ahead. Explain to her the situation first.
You were not serious in your relationship, you were just confusing each other. You never loved her, for a whole seven years, you refused to get introduced. The man did good to marry your sister. Next time, go for a serious relationship. The man wouldn’t marry your sister had you been serious.
Man it’s complicated. If you were serious with your relationship, seven years were enough for you and your girlfriend to be known by both sides, but I think you should end the relationship.
African culture is far different from the English. Discuss things with the lady and end the relationship. Or else you may find your son marrying your wife’ first child and your son’s son marries who?
Stop and make a U-turn. Don’t think about the years you have wasted cunning her, but look at the future of your children. If you continue, a generational curse will be upon the children you are going to have. Guilbert
Ho! It’s tricky because your sister has turned to be your girlfriend’s step mother. Sorry but I think it’s better for you to complete your education and settle later when God blesses you with a stable relationship.
Things are not easy bro. But it depends on your tribe. If such is acceptable in your tribe, go ahead, but if it’s not my dear, you have to let go of her. Maybe she was meant for you. Your heaven sent love will find you one day.
Just continue because it’s not your fault that her father got married to your sister.
It won’t be okay to quit if you want to have peace of mind in your family. Remember your cultural and religious views about it.