My husband is chasing me out of our home
Dear Heart to Heart, My husband of 16 years wants me to leave our home which we built together. We have three children aged 10, eight and seven but he says he no longer loves me and I should leave but not take the children. I have pleaded with him to tell me why in vain. I have also refused to leave the house and when he attempted to lock me out, I went to police and he returned the house keys. I still love him and would like to see our children grow up with the both of us what should I do?
Alice
YOUR FEEDBACK
Ritah Martha Risita Risma. Before you were together he also did not have a home. He left his parents’ home to also make a home, it’s not his home. You and him built it together and you played the biggest role of adding the children. Do not leave if he loves you no more, tell him to leave not you. You have to stand your ground for your children. Insist on him leaving if he won’t be with you it is both your home not his.
Ndyamuhaki Sarah. When men go for other women, they are bewitched to make them forget their wives. Do not go and do not just remain. Kneel before God and fast three days both day and night and you will see change. Be involved in prayers. Call others to pray for you. The devil is fighting marriage so that there will be no more generations thus destroying the world.
Apostle Gilbert Payago. Do not leave the home, check your behaviour and where need be, make urgent adjustments. And finally try to involve his close friends and relatives to intervene. the problem might be conflict of interests.
David Lubega. Well about wealth, it’s tricky and debatable. For any marriage to thrive, love is the basic. So when love ends pull no strings, it is a fruitless venture. However, it is unacceptable to make you leave your marital home. If he no longer loves you, let him quit. You must keep your children no matter the odds. Please be firm, that is a wasted man.
Sam Khahureh. Do not leave. Let him leave if he wants. Those children should be brought up in their home and by their mother. Stand your ground, but also change in the areas which do not please him.
Amanyire Peter Araali. Well, it is very bad to have been together for 16 years and he wants you to leave. That man must have not loved you since you got married. Maybe he just wanted to have children. If you can sustain yourself economically, it would be good to leave him alone, you may insist and stay and it costs you your life. I believe if you leave and go be well off, he may even regret and come back to plead.
Wante Davis Samuel. Kindly keep a distance from him. Do first things first, each time you express yourself in a manner that implies that you need him more than your God, the more you lose it. Return to your parents, disengage any form of communication with him and confide in prayer. God has never forgotten those who are hurting.
Phoebe Miriam. Do not waste your love on him any longer! If you are legally married you could seek court redress and keep the house!
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