Saving your relationship? Get rid of the ex-hangover

What you need to know:

  • Like all cheaters, he apologised, shed crocodile tears and blamed the devil for always tempting him.

Like someone after a night of heavy drinking, you wake up with a headache, nausea or vomiting and you swear on your ancestor’s grave that you will never take too much alcohol again. But after calm days and nights, the thirst drives you back into the waiting arms of a bar attender. You enjoy and the cycle continues.
People who keep re-visiting their past relationships are the reason we have so many hard hearted human beings who no longer believe in love and thus take sex as a hobby. But then you wonder why it is so hard for people to cut off communications from their exes.

An ex is a red hot coal and you are nothing but fuel, these two can never be put in one room and you do not expect a fire outbreak. Once you give in to the temptation that most people claim is not cheating, since you were once with them anyway, you move with the guilt of cheating on your spouse. It haunts you and you promise not to do it again but then memory drives you back and because of your boredom, you pick up that phone and call the past. The past welcomes you with thirst and you keep doing the wrong things over and over. That does not make it right and if you doubt that, wait until you are caught.

Mosh has a baby with her ex. she is the persistent woman who is good at causing baby mama drama. One time, Mosh’s wife got fed up of all the late night “the child is sick” drama that she offered to raise the child herself. Mosh almost accepted until he remembered it was his only excuse to visit the ex-baby mama.
One day, Mosh’s wife became suspicious at how calm their phone calls had become. The baby mama no longer called her with threats like she used to. And Mosh was constantly visiting her and sometimes spending nights at her home. He always lied that he was out with his friends until one day his best friend was involved in an accident. His other buddies called Mosh whose phone was off and thus ended up calling his wife. At first, Mosh’s wife thought that something wrong had happened to him but after receiving the call, she was perturbed by the fact that Mosh was actually not with the boys as he had claimed. She dug deeper and discovered he was spending all that time with his ex.

Like all cheaters, he apologised, shed crocodile tears and blamed the devil for always tempting him. “The devil keeps pulling me back to her but I promise I will never do it again.” Mosh’s now pregnant wife did not want to stress herself so she ignored him and stayed home. Three months later, the baby mama drama resumed and this time, she attacked Mosh’s wife. In an effort to prove a point, she told her about their meetings. This did not go well with Mosh. But one wonders, why on earth do you keep returning to what you dumped?