She has left him three times and come back

She has left him for other men, and has come back to him, knowing for certain that he will take her back, because he doesn’t seem capable of dating anyone else.

Most people in relationships are not happy. This is a sad thing to say, but it is a truth. It might not be your truth, but for most people out there, it sadly is. You might not agree with me, please feel free to do so, but this does not make you right. You might say all your friends are happily dating, but we all know that this is not the truth, because people lie. People lie to themselves first, and they lie to everyone else because they don’t want people to know how miserable they are.

And like this, they live for public appearances. It is a really sad thing, especially when you are married. But when you are not married, what on earth would make one stay in an unhappy and miserable relationship? But I am not a relationship expert, so I do not bother myself with trying to understand that kind of thing. Although for my friend Tim, I wished I could understand what was going on the inside his heart, and more so, his head.

Tim is a bright, smart fella. Well educated, a nice job, a promising career. He is not even bad looking. Tim is a great man by many standards. His flaws are not that serious for him to lack potential dates.

Tim’s girlfriend gives true meaning to ‘woman of his life’. They have been together for a while now, about six years, but within that time, she has left him three times! Yes, three times!

She has left him for other men, and has come back to him, knowing for certain that he will take her back, because he doesn’t seem capable of dating anyone else.
Like a man who cannot imagine life without his torture mistress, he had taken her back. This he has done three times!
He calls this love, I call this foolishness. The first time, that was understandable, most people would do it. I believe she fed him some stupid story about having ‘really messed up, and its him she really loves, so will he give them a second chance?’.
The second time, very few people would fall for it. To make it worse, she left him for a friend of his. After a brief stint, she was back. I suppose this time, she told him she had realised that he is the only man she loves and can ever love, and her life was right there with him.

And he had opened his arms to receive her back in a warm hug, and they had cried tears of happy re-reunion.
All of us, the people who call themselves his friends, told him not to take the woman back. But the heart wants what it wants; Tim took her back and all was good.

For a while at least. Then she left him yet again! And we all wished and thought she was gone for good because this other fella was so serious, he even got officially introduced at the girl’s home. Everyone of us was relieved – besides Tim, that is, we were sure that if anything, this official introduction would prevent her from coming back to torture our dear friend.

She could not be that shameless! But no, some things cannot stay apart for long. Somehow, the girl’s new relationship didn’t catch on. And like a bad recurring nightmare, soon she was back hounding Tim.
None of us could believe it when we found out. Found out, because Tim kept it a secret from everyone for as long as he could, but some things cannot stay hidden forever. And he was right to try and keep it a secret; everyone was furious!
Not that it was any of our business who he dated, but at that point, it was obvious he was just wasting his life away on this woman. She tortured him when she was around, threating to leave all the time.
And when she left, he was miserable as hell. But she never stayed away long enough for him to forget about her and move on.

For the past six years, this man has been one miserable fella, I am surprised he even still behaves normal.
But like I said, I am no relationships expert, and so I told him my piece and left him to his devices, which, last I heard, they were planning to get married. What a life they will have!

Recurring habit
The first time, that was understandable, most people would do it. I believe she fed him some stupid story about having ‘really messed up, and its him she really loves, so will he give them a second chance?’.
The second time, very few people would fall for it. To make it worse, she left him for a friend of his. After a brief stint, she was back. I suppose this time, she told him she had realised that he is the only man she loves and can ever love, and her life was right there with him. And he had opened his arms to receive her back in a warm hug, and they had cried tears of happy re-reunion.