She left me but now wants to rekindle our relationship

The problem
Dear Heart to Heart, My girlfriend and I had been dating for a year when she started acting strange. First, she would claim she was busy each time I called her on phone for about five months. Then she would seem unhappy all the time yet would say all was well whenever I asked what the matter was. I kept pleading with her until one month later when she told me openly to stay away from her. But now, she is pleading with me to allow her back. Why had she rejected me in the first place? Should I reject her proposal?
James

Your solutions
Abdallah Balanayara. She was seeing someone who has now dumped her. Please reject her and look for a girl who is marriage or relationship material. Those kinds of relationships can one day give you heart attack or HIV.

Pro Redz. One thing you should know is that when you take her back, things may not be the same as they use to. You will live in doubt yet happiness should be the centre of a relationship. Let her be so that she can learn never to take people for granted.

Daniel Ashmore. Reject her proposal so that she can regret what she did. Sometimes when you are quick to forgive such people, they don’t understand how much they hurt you.

Lakwoo Lacan Pelonyatii. It’s a pity that you are going through such a relationship. But you should know that there are different types of girlfriends. Those who love luxury, having fun and those who love genuinely. You need to study your girlfriend and know where she belongs.

Goodlive Chukwuemeka. “They don’t miss you until the person they’re trying to replace you with fails”. Reject her and move on because you never hurt her for her to leave you. She doesn’t deserve you.

Derrick Muganza. Don’t allow to be taken for a pony on the chess board. Where does your manhood lie? Tell her point blank you are not going to rebound. She is taking you as a last resort because she has not reaped well from where she invested her hopes during those five months.

Wanzala WB Bruce. Reject her without thinking twice. Maybe she had gone into the arms of another man, but when things didn’t work out she wants to use you as a consolation. Be mindful of STIs.

Mugagga Bally. You were the moon but she wanted stars, she told you to stay away, it’s a two way ticket. She may have lost the stars and learnt her lesson or she could leave you again. The choice is yours.

Counsellors say

Stephen Langa. Family Life Network:

Dear James, I believe there are tests at every stage of a relationship and it depends on how you handle these tests that you may end or continue with a relationship.
If she rejected you in the first place, she could have needed space and space is legitimate in relationships because you get the time to reflect on what is happening in your relationship. She, too, may have reflected and understood that she needed you in her life. After the reflection, she may be a better partner than she was before.
I advise that you do not reject her as a way of paying back for what she did. True love does not inflict pain deliberately. You should forgive and forget about what happened in the past and move on with your relationship.

Evelyn Kharono Lufafa, Ssubi Medical Centre:

Dear James, the decision on whether to take back your girlfriend is personal because two people in love need to consider their feelings and make decisions based on them.
However, it seems your girlfriend could have been battling two relationships and when she needed to choose one it turned out she didn’t choose you.
It is hard for women to handle more than one relationship given the demands of men, a reason she probably asked you to stay away from her in the first place.
If you choose to have her back, be ready for anything even being hurt again and the anxiety of if she would do the same thing over again because if she had loved you the way she said she did, I think she would not have hurt you in the first place. Compiled by Beatrice Nakibuuka & Racheal Irene Nalubega