Dear Heart to Heart, I had a girlfriend and we had been together for four years. In May, however, she sent me a message out of the blue, telling me not to call her ever again. To date, I have no idea what happened, she does not pick up my calls, even when I send messages apologising for what I don’t know. I have scratched my head trying to figure out what I did wrong but I recall nothing. I love that girl so much and I feel I can’t live without her. She is my life, my future, and my everything. What can I do?
Ismail, you are getting hurt. I do not think this girl has found her dream man yet, you seem like a stop station. Do not complicate your life. All you have to do now is; do not call or text this girl, pretend like it is a cancelled game between Barcelona and Madrid, make yourself very busy, go to the beach, the Premier League is back, go support your team, let go! Listen to Kamuleke by OS*suuna, you will get what I mean.
What should you do? Aren’t you a man? Get someone else already. Women don’t know what they want. She wanted money, and indeed she never loved you. Don’t kill yourself bro, let it go and start a new life. Delete her phone number from your brain and phone immediately. God is rescuing you from something you couldn’t bear. Everything happens for a reason.
Is she the only one you have seen? Get serious! With millions of desperate girls around? Get 10 for yourself so that whoever disturbs you, just abandon.
You may think it is you who did something wrong, yet it is her. Stop saying you can’t live without her, she is human, so trust God to heal your heart.
Let her go! If she comes back, then she is yours and if she doesn’t come back, then know that she was not meant for you! Is she the last born?
I disagree, she is not your everything. Come on guys, by now you should know these female creatures well. Their hearts are like produce for sale, which goes to the highest bidder.
You are even a Moslem, why hustle with one woman. Move on, she never loved you in the first place.
I know it is really hard getting over a person you really love, but there is a time when you have to acknowledge defeat and let go!
First give her a grace period, then after some time you can call her. Trust me, she will tell you everything.
It’s not easy my friend Ismail, but you have to pull yourself together. Betrayal in a relationship brings with it many negative psychological effects and these worsen as one clings to the partner who isn’t interested anymore. People have had problems and serious ones by the way, but they talk about them even when they can’t be revived. It takes two interested partners to sustain a relationship. If one isn’t interested any more, the other has to look for a possible replacement.
You were dumped a long time ago and you are still hanging on? Come on, move on with your life, because women are like that, they think men are angels to know their hearts more than themselves.
She is not your life. When you move on, you will realise that she did you a favour by leaving you. Move on you will forget.
That pain will go. Many have been there but they chose to heal faster. Get something serious that will keep you busy.
There are many eggs in a basket waiting to hatch, just let it go.