Sleeping with someone doesn’t guarantee love

What you need to know:

  • Not everybody values sex. To some people, it is just another hobby such as watching a football match. It brings excitement and one can wait for it uneasily as if life depends on it but once it is done. You get back to other things that matter.

Not everybody values sex. To some people, it is just another hobby such as watching a football match. It brings excitement and one can wait for it uneasily as if life depends on it but once it is done. You get back to other things that matter.

Is that wrong? Definitely yes, but we live in a bungled generation where people do things with their brains but not conscience.

Anyway, you cannot change everyone but you can avoid falling prey.

It’s true some men are irresistible; you are smitten from head to toe when you meet them that when they smile, all you see are stars and the scent when he hugs you is better than the aroma of food. You are caught in his magic and can do anything to make him yours. Not that he wants you for keeps but because you are smitten beyond your own control.

So as a woman who trusts in her inner goddess, you are convinced that you can make him love you. You dream of his masculine hand holding yours on the street and making every girl look on with envy. The thought of it brings a rush in your spirit and a smile that you cannot even account for.

Take my friend Prosy, for instance. She could make you envious as she talked about her fantasy prince Tony. Tony was an arrogant but extremely handsome man.

He was not really into Prosy and all of us could notice.

But Prosy was determined to trap him with her natural charm. She made herself available every time Tony asked and eventually she worked her way into his bedroom. She was sure she had hit the jack pot and that all her dreams had finally come to reality. She smiled sheepishly after serving herself to Tony and felt like the only living girl in town.

She did not want to wake up from this dream but unfortunately, reality woke her up though a bit later than expected. As Prosy was thinking she was in a relationship with Tony, Tony only wanted company.
He only called her when he was lonely and she could desperately run to him. She noticed this relationship was one sided but she was determined to hold onto it with hopes that he will eventually fall for her.

The day of ‘falling for her’ never came. And when she threatened to break off the relationship, Tony arrogantly asked her, “which relationship? You mean nothing to me; we just serve each other’s needs and nothing more.”

This was not anything Prosy ever expected. She was so hurt and felt bad about her body. She thought a man would fall for her just because she satisfies his sexual desires. That is never the case, if someone does not love you, even if you make it snow in Uganda, the feelings might not change. And do not think you can use sex to blackmail someone into loving you.

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