Studying your partner for years? Do you hope to graduate?

Is dating someone a status? Is it recognised in the marriage laws? Can someone get certain benefits for dating another? Can a woman adopt their partner’s name? Of course not. Some couples date for as long as three to seven years claiming they are studying each other before they commit but my dear brother/sister, are you pursuing a degree of any sort?
No matter how long you spend ‘studying’ someone, truth be told, you can never fully understand them.

Sarah dated Thomas when they were still at the university. Five years down the road, they were still dating and Thomas showed no signs of taking the next step. Being mindful of age, Sarah lost hope that Thomas would one day marry her. So she put herself out there to give chance to any other potential men.
A year later, she got married to Peter. Thomas caused a scene at her introduction ceremony and even threatened to commit suicide. Did Sarah still love him? Of course she did, but she was tired of dating; she wanted more than what Thomas could offer.
Dating is a term that was created to blindly waste people’s time. Imagine giving your youthful five years to someone who might never be in your future!

Maybe it can be alright for teenagers to date for three years and above. Some people are ruthless, he wants to date a 30-year-old for five years. But really? Human beings change so if you believe you can understand your spouse more than they understand themselves, you are in for a mega surprise. Spend a few months or a year paying attention to what matters and trust me, you will be able to identify whether you need that person in your life. If not, you two are just wasting each other’s time and draining emotions.
Surprisingly, even when a man has already decided on who to marry, he keeps claiming that he wants to know her more. So let me ask, what if you know her fully, will that guarantee a perfect marriage? I have witnessed a girl who dated a man for more than five years but in the sixth year, the man got another girl and since her family was more persistent, he introduced her and finally married her.

So dating someone for long does not guarantee marriage and it sure does not mean you will live a happy married life. If it does not take a heart that long to fall in love then why do we keep dragging down what is meant to be?
By the way, dating someone for long is a risk, what if someone else comes and sweeps her off their feet? Some will say, “then it was not meant to be”. But late comers most times eat bones.
Do not waste your time on dating, human species will show you what she or he wants you to see and then manifest the true colours afterwards. Follow your heart and pursue one who your heart loves.