Sunday February 16 2014

When you date a beautiful woman…

By Agatha Muhaise

Men are often thought of as visual creatures. You cannot blame them for being superficial when it is wired into their brains, can you? That is what most of them say, at least, as a defence - because they are defenceless when faced with an incredibly beautiful woman.
Because we labour under this condition, many of us naturally seek out partners who are profoundly visually satisfying- if we are lucky enough to attract them. But many of us then also learn that dating a very beautiful woman puts us at the mercy of our greatest weaknesses. It is not always easy.

Advances from other men
James Kakuru, 37, an IT specialist says: “thinking back to how quickly you tried to get her number, can you even blame them? It does not matter how much trust you have between you. There is something irritating about knowing that basically everywhere she goes, men will be coming up with excuses to talk to her.” That is not good for a boyfriend or fiancé.

Fight men you don’t know
Sometimes you might even be in the vicinity of one such attempt on the part of another man.
“If you are like a lot of men it can be hard to ignore a guy paying unwanted attention to your female companion. And depending on the character of this man, things can escalate,” Ronald Mugeye, a teacher, shares, adding, “Who needs that kind of stress?”

Become jealous and possessive
According to Julius Guleme, 40, a businessman, men with low self-esteem like myself have a little jealousy lurking within, and if you have never encountered it before, you probably will once you are dating a very beautiful woman.
“When I was still dating my wife, then girlfriend, I always wanted to keep by her side every time a man wanted to talk to her. Even then, I seemed as good as her Personal assistant and wanted to do everything for her,” he says.

No one will notice you in her presence
Ian Mwesigwa, 30, thinks when you date a beautiful woman, people will not notice you beside her. You will fade into the background behind her glow. Worst-case scenario, people will wonder what she is doing with a regular man like you.

How about we add a dash of insecurity to the stew of bad character while we are at it? Nothing is less attractive to women than insecurity in men, so this may well be the death knell for your relationship. Not sure she is into you? Great, that probably means your behaviour is going to create the conditions of a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Her ego could be a problem
Yes, she keeps hearing about how hot she is and it inflates her ego. She has been hearing about it since she was 18 (and probably before) relentlessly. Be ready to succumb to this hotness of the woman that may not go well with you too.
Go ahead and date the beauty .