Which stage is your relationship at?

What you need to know:

  • Every relationship has its own dynamics but they all tend to go through the same stages. It is good to consider this before you come up with lines like “Ugandan men suck”.
  • Any two people can have a worthwhile relationship if they are committed to trying. Lets explore a few things that may happen as the relationship progresses

Every relationship has its own dynamics but they all tend to go through the same stages. It is good to consider this before you come up with lines like “Ugandan men suck”.
Then you spend years endlessly dreaming about the few Caucasian men about town and doing everything possible to hook up with one.
I believe that all men are the same. So are women.
Any two people can have a worthwhile relationship if they are committed to trying. Lets explore a few things that may happen as the relationship progresses.

God must have spent a little more time on you stage
This is the first stage where people tend to act a little bizarre because they are in “love”.
It is more like infatuation or maybe fascination. They cannot believe that such a creature so beautiful exists.
People at this stage also harbour stalker tendencies.
Some are currently doing time in jail for stalking while others have restraining orders slapped against them.
Being in love has been compared to madness due to this stage.
It only lasts for as long as the object of your interest shows no intentions of reciprocating your feelings.
If they do, this stage disappears faster than you can say bae.
We “just ordinary people” stage
Here you make the grand discovery that your person is a normal human being. The level of madness has dramatically reduced at this stage. No there won’t be any more ludicrous declarations of love. “Things like I’d die without you”. were long tossed out and forgotten. Now it’s more like “I can’t believe you forgot my birthday again.” while rolling eyes and twirling hair with a finger.
There are more fights at this stage, less elaborate fancy dinners that cost an arm and a leg.
You are street smart here and won’t spend your entire paycheck on a birthday present for your man.
While you do not habour the extreme beliefs that your girl is a beautiful angel, you love her for who she is and are committed to her. it is good to note that some couples stay at this stage for years before they call it quits.

Part time lover
Some people miss the second stage and dive into the part time lover stage. These are normally the kinds that were simply looking for fun.
Others have a lot of unreasonable expectations that are impossible to meet. Immediately they get into the relationship, they quickly get bored by the lack of excitement they once felt.
They will dump you three months into dating with some bogus excuse. “Bae, you drive a silver car and I have always seen myself with someone that drives a car with a masculine colour like black.” She will tell you while looking at her feet. He on the other hand may tell you “It’s not you but me. I always saw myself with a girl with big hips and yours are small. I’m just being true to myself.”

From this moment stage
This is the stage of serious commitment. The marriage stage. All dating should ideally lead here.
The couple at this point realises that despite their different ways of doing things, they would like to commit to a long-term union and possibly have some kids.
The woman trusts him to handle the responsibilities that come with family life.
She also doesn’t mind babies with his likeness plastered all over them. The man thinks she is beautiful and believes he cannot live without her.
He also wants to do away with eating Rolex and aspires towards more conventional meals thanks to her cooking. That is a major motivation for many men.
The couple looks forward to conquering life together. This stage is also dreaded by many singles. Many men cannot fathom how they can commit to one person for life in a world with so much variety. She on the other hand may fear what he may be hiding.
Like serial killer tendencies buried deep in his past. However, many times things go southwards in marriages because we as humans are inherently selfish and look out for our own interests sometimes at any cost.