Why has my man changed?

The problem
Dear Heart to Heart, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about one-and-a-half years. At first, everything was fine between us, communication was frequent but last year in August, he started distancing himself from me. He wants every proposed visit communicated and the reasons for the visits. Of late, when I call him and ask him a question, it turns into a very big issue and he gets angry. I really don’t know what the problem is. Please advise me on what to do.
Harriet

Your solutions
Simie Annie Favour Nyanjura: Girl, let me tell you something, he is a boyfriend. At that stage, you drop them as fast as they come. Move the freakin Hell on. You will know when the right man comes.

Thomas Alan Obura: Stop over demanding men.

Gilbert Snr Kips: Those are just indications for you to know that his heart is already taken by someone else. If you are wise you better end the relationship and allow someone who loves and cherishes you to take mantle

Prisca Opio: Stop chasing wind and let go because I am sure you will get someone who understands you better.

Higenyi James: Your boyfriend has something that he is hiding and most likely another girl friend, sit him down and ask for the truth.

Kayiza Shafiq: A questioning and demanding woman can’t last in a relationship. You need to respect what he says or else you are the one causing trouble for yourself. Why abrupt programmes?

Sharon Edewa: He might not be interested in the relationship any more, but please take it easy because it’s not the end of you.

Arinaitwe Hillary: Be patient about it.

Deedz Ibrahim: Your partner distancing himself from you might be viewed in two ways, you could either be the problem and he can’t just let you know, so he decides to keep a distance from you, or he could be the cause of the problem.
My point is, first identify which party is causing all this. Mind you, the public will always advice on what it reads and see, but it’s only you and him that know what’s happening and believe me you have the best solution.

Musisi Isaiah: It is crystal clear that if the problem is not with you, then he wants to dump you for someone else. But I tell you just stay cool though it hurts. You will see him change eventually.
But even if he goes, he will still regret why he gave up on you and he will come back on his knees begging.

Hings Nathing Justine: Oh sister, sorry but if your man is like me, please there is nothing wrong.
I recalled when I had just gotten the love of my life, we were in a long distance relationship; Gulu-Kampala. Things were okay, we could talk for about five hours over phone a day. But a year after, I was sure she loves me so I had to reduce calling her and she was not happy for the change. Later, she understood me and now we are good to go please study the situation carefully.

Ali Male, Counseling psychologist:

This is stressful and annoying, but you need to understand that you are a victim of love partner over protectiveness, which is determined by factors such as personality, love, insecurity and low self esteem. In most cases, men lean on their wives/ partners for personal growth.
Try to challenge this habit in the most lovely way that will make him think about it. Help him build trust day by day; so that by the time he realises that it is hurting (what he is doing) guilt will automatically stop him from doing it again.
So, your understanding and support in this case will be paramount and needed to both you and your partner.
Generally speaking, men and women are meant to support each other to deal with complex behaviors that each finds in their partner. Compiled by Desire Mbabaali

Next week’s problem

Dear Heart to Heart, I am 24 years, I got this lady from the bar on Easter 2015. I took her home and we are still staying together.
She conceived but at seven months, she got high blood pressure and started convulsing. She was operated at a cost of Shs800,000 and the baby was taken to the Intensive Care Unit where it died after some time.
We have tried to get another baby but have failed. She recently told me that she was pregnant, when we went for a test, the results were negative. Do you think something went wrong during the operation?
Opio