Should some things be kept secret in a relationship?

Ideally, couples should be open with each other about everything but the reality is different. This has always been a subject for debate.

Ekisa advises couples to create some time for themselves to be alone. This gives them time to study and learn from each other before getting committed in marriage to avoid the embarrassment of divorce later.

“Get some time alone as a couple. This gives the couple time to study each other before getting committed. Where there are weaknesses, they can be shared and be dealt with, other than hiding only to open up while in marriage. This has to be continuous even after getting married to fulfill the vows,” he says.

Partners should pray for each other for divine intervention where things are too hard to handle on top of seeking guidance from leaders, elders and counsellors.

If one’s past has a bearing on the future of the relationship especially issues to do with health and finances, partners should be very open and be free to share other than waiting for later manifestations, which is dangerous for the relationship.

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