Dating: When you are attracted to your friend’s woman

You know that feeling when you are attracted to your friend’s woman, but every part of you tells you that you should not even dare think about it?

I mean, she is a great girl, and you do not think he deserves her, she is too good for him, and he probably does not appreciate how great she is. You think if it were you in his shoes, you would do a better job; you would treat her better, and the two of you would make a great couple. I believe every man has gone through this at some point.

Fortunately, I think I have outgrown such dangerous things. It happened to me thrice, and all the time, I managed to control myself before things went wild. But the second time it happened, I almost lost it. There was this girl. By all means, she was supposed to be mine. Yeah, I say “supposed” because I knew her first, but was a little too preoccupied to make my move. So, when this friend of mine came and got her singing to his tune, it was supposed to be me doing that.

Interestingly, at first I thought he would fail, I did not even give it much attention, besides laughing at him as he stressed in doing things to get the girl’s attention. His efforts paid off eventually. I put it to him getting lucky, and suddenly, she was his girlfriend. I realised that I had always wanted her for myself. I had not mentioned or hinted it to her, so she must have not known that I had anything for her before this guy came in.

We were friends, but I always keep the option open; you never know what might come up. After they started dating, I realised that she is a great woman. I guess that was all because of a new perspective. She took her relationship seriously but kept it fun and interesting. That is when this idea came in; she was supposed to be with me. I tried to keep it to myself at first but it soon became obvious.

But trust guys, he never picked up on the most obvious things I did. Like one time when I said to her, “You have no idea what I would do to have you in my arms”. He heard me but probably thought I was just teasing her. But the girl knew I was dead serious.

After several such incidents, she asked me why I was doing what I was doing. Instinctively, I denied it, although I did not even know what i was denying. She elaborated, but she did not need to. I knew what I was doing, and I knew why I was doing it. I wanted her, and I told her. She answered: “All that time, why didn’t you ever say anything!? For some time, I entertained the thought that me and you might be, but clearly you were not interested. Please don’t toy with my feelings, let me be”.

They call that sleeping on duty, or “pashing on jobo”. I thought about it. Two days later, I told her to leave her guy and take a walk with me to eternal bliss, but some things are just not meant to be.

That very day, the guy called me and said there was something he wanted to talk to me about. I did not even think it had anything to do with the girl. He was planning to propose to her, and he wanted me to help him plan it. He had already even bought the ring. Yeah, I had to stop fooling around.

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