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Henry Tigan and Ramesh share love lessons
Posted Friday, February 1 2013 at 00:00
Dating a celebrity can be such a challenge but Henry Tigan, an artise and his girlfriend believe trust overcomes this.
For singer Henry Tigan and Rinah Ramesh, love is an act of endless forgiveness; when she accepted to become his girlfriend, she was aware that she had to be patient since celebrity life comes with lots of talk.
“Many times girls will call him up and pour their hearts out to him but I have grown used to it because I trust my man,” Ramesh says
“Abusing trust is the worst thing and whereas, as a man, I will be tempted, I must have respect for my girlfriend. The girls will always come between us but most of these are obsessed fans,” Tigan, born Henry Kirumaganyi, explains.
Tigan and Ramesh are looking forward to walking the aisle soon but this is not the big day in their lives because putting a ring on their fingers will only act as symbols to remind them of their love. Not that they are the perfect couple but, like any young couple, reveal that they fight. However, they work at trying to understand one another and achieving mutual respect.
Their love story is realistic as the lessons it offers to fellow young couples. For starters, Ramesh, of Indian origin, is dating a Ugandan man, which is not common. In eloquent Luganda, she says she has lot of Ugandan blood and if it is love, then no one will stop her from loving her man.
“I am a Ugandan by birth and nationality. My father is Indian and my mother is a Musoga,” she explains.
Tigan and Ramesh were friends before they began dating. That was about five years ago, in 2008.
“He had come to see a friend of mine at Frobel in Ntinda and naturally I said, ‘hi’. I did not realise he was smitten but later, he confessed. So, for six months, we were friends and in fact he started taking me out. Later, he told me he was studying me. I jokingly asked whether I was a weather focus to be studied and he laughed it off.” She says he was a good person and a gentleman because he called to find out how she was and made it a point to see her frequently. Pizzeria Italia in Bugolobi was their favourite place because she liked ice cream. They became good friends.
“I liked her for her calmness, composure and the fact that she was unpretentious, respectful and supportive as a friend, the same qualities that made me fall in love with her. She did not love me for what I am but for who I am. She didn’t fall in love with Henry Tigan but Henry Kirumaganyi,” Tigan says.
They dated for well over a year before they decided they were ready to take it to the next level, which meant her moving in with him.
At the time, Tigan’s music star was just beginning to shine and he was still staying at his parent’s home. “She told me to leave home and find a place where we would start our life,” he recollects.
They found a place where they started their home. He likes to help her out especially with the baking, which she is doing as a business. As she bakes, he willingly helps her bring this and that as he also learns a thing or two.
“We are best friends above all. As lovers, we face challenges in communication and other issues as we relate but because we are friends, we are open to one another and that has helped us kick out stuff like ‘silent treatment’ or letting issues pile, which can be emotionally distressing,” Ramesh adds.
To Tigan, is not only respectful to her but her family as well, which has won him acceptance. But on his celebrity status he says, “As a male musician, I do attract female fans who want more than just being fans. I try to deal with them without being distracted.”
To Ramesh, this is an issue that keeps her praying. “I just pray to God and I find peace to deal with it,” she says, adding, “If I have heard something I won’t confront him but if I see him with a girl I suspect to be seducing him, I will confront him.”