Monday March 24 2014

LIVING AND LOVING IT : You are not worthless


By Carol Beyanga

Have you ever been in a spot where you felt worthless? I have. There have been times I felt like I was not giving my work the best that I could, not because I did not want to but because I felt like I could not. It seemed like whatever I did, just fell apart or did not come out as well as I had hoped.

Feeling terrible, I would leave work hoping to find respite at home. However, from the minute I got into the house, I was quarreling and fighting with everyone, because I carried my bad mood from the office to home.
By the time I got into bed, I would be feeling horrible for having shouted at our girls, been too harsh with the maid and not given hubby a listening ear. I would end up feeling worthless.

I still feel that way sometimes. But I am learning that my worth should not be measured by my work or what I can do. Of course, it is important that I do a good job whatever I put my hands to and I should be able to affect the community I live in positively.

Beyond circumstances
But there will be a day I cannot work and might not be able do a thing for many around me. Would that mean I am worthless? I believe not. Our worth is more than what we do. It is who we are.

Even newborn babies are worth more than gold. Old grannies who can hardly do anything for themselves are worth all the care and love. People who roam the streets having become mentally disturbed, are still deserving of help, attention and care.
The problem is that we let people determine our worth. And because of that, people put crazy standards. So if we do not meet them, we are labelled as unworthy. It is wrong.

You might be feeling unworthy of getting a good suitor because you are not as pretty as the men would like you to be, or you do not have the kind of money young women want.

Because your husband says you are not like his mother or cannot do the things a woman should, or because your wife says you are not man enough, you feel like you do not belong in that house.

Perhaps you never really finished school for one reason or another and no one will touch you because you do not have a degree.
Or maybe you do not fit in the clique you used to because your friends feel you no longer meet the mark. You are not worthless.

People do not create us. God does and only He determines our worth. Luckily for us all, He says we are all worthy of so much.
So don’t let people, or your job or skills or talents determine your worth. Instead, focus on who you really are, and love that and then do things that your worth gives you.