Why you need to make those resolutions

Have you like me, heard all those people who are rubbishing the idea or notion of making new year plans? The more the years go by, the more people who seem to think the resolution thing is a waste of time. I mean, why write all these things you know you are not going to keep right? Well, wrong. You see, resolutions, like deadlines or plans will never happen by themselves. It takes the individual to make things happen.

So if you have been putting a damper on people who want to try and do something different in 2013, you need to take your words back. You do not have to make resolutions if you do not want to. But you do not have to say the worst of them as you most likely do of things like Valentine’s Day.

The thing about resolutions is that they have to be achievable. Say you want to lose weight. First thing you should ask yourself is why. Very important because if you have the wrong reasons, you will not have the determination to see it through.

After that, you need to figure out how you are going to go about it. Do you have just one plan or a combination of three? How are you going to start? Do you need funds for it? Where are they going to come from? Answer all those questions. And then, finally, actually start on them. No use making a resolution and not putting a date/deadline to it.

How else do you think rich people get rich, or couples’ relationships improve, or parenting skills take a turn for the better? People do not just wish for those things. They work on making them happen. You want to ensure you have a business running, do that Masters’ degree, or marry your partner by the end of the year? Then make a note of it, set a deadline and work on making it happen. In fact, resolutions do not have to be made at the beginning of the year. They can be made in the middle or the end.

The point is if you do not jot down in your diary, or weathered notebook or calendar, the things you plan to do, it is going to be hard to remember or have something to look forward to doing. And if you are unable to make them, do not beat yourself up or give up on making more plans.

Chances are you will be successful the second time round.

cbeyanga@ug.nationmedia.com