He broke up with me but now wants me back

Although we are in the same year at university, we go to different universities and only communicate through calls and messages. COURTESY PHOTO

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Dear Heart to Heart, my boyfriend and I have been dating for the past two years. Although we are in the same year at university, we go to different universities and only communicate through calls and messages. Problem is, for the last three months, he has not answered my calls or replied to my messages. When I asked why, he said he is not ready for a serious relationship and wants us to be friends. Now he has turned around saying he still wants me in his life and I should wait for him to commit. Question is, is he just wasting my time? Rebecca

Dear Heart to Heart, my boyfriend and I have been dating for the past two years. Although we are in the same year at university, we go to different universities and only communicate through calls and messages. Problem is, for the last three months, he has not answered my calls or replied to my messages. When I asked why, he said he is not ready for a serious relationship and wants us to be friends. Now he has turned around saying he still wants me in his life and I should wait for him to commit. Question is, is he just wasting my time? Rebecca

YOUR FEEDBACK
Absolom Lubwama. There are questions you need to ask. It is typical for a man to develop cold feet when he feels he is not financially stable to take care of the family. Much as he may love you, many men do not want to depend on women financially. If this is the case, give him another chance and help him become the man that would build a home for you and your children.

Naturinda Patience. Be patient because rushing into a relationship will not help you. If you still love him, give him a second chance but do not rush into anything serious. Take your time to also study him.

Jy Peterson. Just know he does not love you. He is only missing some random moments that you could have had together. In fact, you will turn into his play thing. Block him and move on with your life.

Senior Joseph Okware. If you still want to be a side dish, continue with him but if you want a serious relationship, quit. The choice is yours.
Ug Owiny Hakiim. They are things I have failed to understand. Who is supposed to give the other a second chance and who is supposed to decide? In my opinion, any relationship where you have to ask outsiders for advice on how to keep it is not worth the hustle. Walk away.

Mike Payesu. A relationship is a lifetime commitment and taking time to make that choice is real investment. Many people have regrets because they rushed, followed people’s opinions and did not consider the fundamentals. So, your man could have made serious analysis and conclusions.

Rachel Monyoncho. Two years is more than enough time for a man to know what he wants. You need to decide what you want and you cannot continue waiting indefinitely without a tangible sign of commitment from him.

Dennis Etaara Twinamasiko. I think you should be more concerned about what you want and not what he wants. Consider your priorities first before his or you will end up being in a rehabilitation centre.

Abooki Mary. He already has a spouse and he is just confusing you. Take your time away from him and ask God to send you a man that will love you for who you are.

Penelope Agaba. He is probably in another relationship and just wants to keep you on the side just in case the other one does not work out. Move on and first concentrate on finishing your studies.

Blessed Jacob. Sit down with him and discuss issues since this is the only way to understand why he dumped you but now wants you back. It is hard to understand a man’s ways when he is not yet decided but once he does, know you will be happy.

Nampa Patience Natie. That man is not sure of what he wants. I think you might be having some of the characters he needs in a partner but he is afraid of commitment. You need to meet up with him and help him to decide by either choosing to push on with you or letting go but he has to be clear on what he wants. By doing that, you will be helped in choosing whether to stay or let go. Just sit down together and discuss the way forward.

Annitah Collinz Muhumuza. Some people fear to commit for different reasons and they will tend to pull out of a relationship if they realise it is getting serious until they will resurface with no sensible explanation of why they ended it in the first place. However, it could also be that he was just playing you and had another woman who he has now realised he does not love. It is hard to deal with a person who cannot make up their mind. I, therefore, advise you to move on.

Phoebe Miriam. My dear, he has told you he is not interested in a serious relationship. Stop nagging and begging him. Concentrate on your education and graduate. When you are done with books, someone will be there waiting to commit to you. Stop acting desperate. You are too young for that and might end up losing all other chances.

David Karakire : Enjoy campus life for now

From what I gather, the both of you are still young and still green about most things. Do not get me wrong, that is an advantage in itself. You still have time to not take things so seriously. Do not be so hung up on this man becuase he is largely confused about a lot of things at this stage in his life and if you are being honest, so are you. So, slow down, and enjoy the experiences that campus has to offer. And if you know him to be a good man, do not close the door yet. Be his friend but do not put your life on hold either. Who knows maybe later in your lives your stars may align or not. Campus is hard enough without relationship pressures. Focus on what is important for now.