Thinking out Loud: Staying virgin is not lack of opportunity
Most girls sacrifice their dignity in an effort to fit in the society, prove her love for the man but once virginity is broken and the relationship doesn't work out, a lot happens.
For some of us who were raised in Christian homes, we were advised to stay pure until marriage. Our ancestors valued virginity.
But lately, some bullies have turned virginity into something else. They claim that if someone is still a virgin until marriageable age, then he or she just lacked opportunities. As a matter of fact, we should preach abstinence until marriage to our children and not make virginity a curse.
Is marrying a virgin still valueable? Some people will claim that she is inexperienced but I say virginity is priceless. Marrying a virgin is like buying that new car with utmost confidence that you are going to be the first driver. A virgin bride is a woman to kill for.
So yes, some values should not be burned down by some people who cannot actually keep them.
At Esther (my friend’s) wedding last weekend, the groom, in his speech revealed that the two had kept their relationship pure until marriage. The men on our table started a discussion; they devalued abstinence and virginity to an extent that they accused the couple of lying. “It is impossible to abstain in this generation,” one man said. “Of course the groom is just creating a good speech but it’s definitely a lie,” another interjected.
Then came another drunk chap who thought he was being funny, “if she is indeed a virgin, then it is a curse because that is proof she had no men asking her out,” they all burst out in laughter until an elderly woman probably Esther’s relative intervened. “If your sisters and girlfriends are not the kind that value sex, you should not devalue the one girl who was raised well,” she said. Everyone around them was rolling eyes in disgust but they were too drunk to care.
If people can call a woman who keeps herself sexually pure less valuable, then what should we teach our children? Since when did our morals become this rotten? Most girls sacrifice their dignity in an effort to fit in the society, prove her love for the man but once that relationship breaks, this girl won’t only have a broken heart, but her dignity and all that she had faith in will be gone.
This is why we have so many broken girls on the streets who earn off sex. These girls were equally innocent and pure until someone showed them that sex has nothing to do with love. But a person who truly loves you will not rush you into an act that will leave you feeling worthless and broken.
Again I say, we should attach value to sex. Let us advise our children to keep pure and maybe, teenage pregnancies will reduce in schools because virginity and abstinence is not lack of opportunities but rather a choice.
