This year, do not look for love in old, wrong places

Every year, she has a resolution to settle and get married but she dates the kind of men who cannot even spell out marriage. COURTESY PHOTO

What you need to know:

  • Every year, she has a resolution to settle and get married but she dates the kind of men who cannot even spell out marriage.
  • I told her to change the net and try different places and people, but I guess she prefers to do the same thing over and over again and expect different results.

During the festive season, I attended many gatherings and feasted with strangers. Many times, each couple had to share the story of how they met, “We met in school,” some couple said. The little giggles and the spark in their eyes showed how rooted their relationship was. Some couples were introduced by a mutual friend and others were magical.

Talking of happily ever after, the story of how you met is something that you will share with friends and strangers and will be told to your children and grandchildren. Much as we do not control how or where we find or will find our life spouse, we at least should know where not to look.

Very many single people think of bars and clubs as a social place to mingle with people who are also in the searching boat. You hope that one drink will lead to something magical until the two of you walk down the isle. Well, if that is how it was written then good luck but chances are you are going to link up with hope crushers, you know the kind that make you feel important at night but forget your name by sunrise?

Those are mostly the kind of people you will find camping at bars seven days of the week. Some years ago, a friend told me that the only reason I was single is because I was such a boring person who did not have a social life.

She went out almost every weekend, endured the cold on boda bodas and spent almost all her salary on expensive drinks with claims that she does not want to drink cheap stuff because then she will only attract cheap fellas. I always wished her luck in her search but up to now, she is still single and more frustrated.

Every year, she has a resolution to settle and get married but she dates the kind of men who cannot even spell out marriage. I told her to change the net and try different places and people, but I guess she prefers to do the same thing over and over again and expect different results.

If you are tired of hooking up with less than you desire, I think it is time you get serious and take your search to a mature level. On the other hand, your spouse will treat you according to where he/she met you. Time flies by so fast, the clock is always ticking and at some point you have to stop wasting your valuable time on people who do not appreciate it.

Searching for love online has worked for some but frustrated many. Avoid it if you can.