Everything we do has consequences. When we work hard, we expect to leave a better life and if we decide to spend our precious time watching movies or playing games, we should not blame anyone if we go hungry.
I always get bothered by people who cry or pretend to be shocked when the spouse finds out that they were cheating and slaps them with divorce papers. “I am sorry, I do not want to lose my marriage” Well, you should have thought about it before you slept with another person other than your spouse.
It is like people who get shocked to find out that their pregnancy test is positive, I mean, if you did not want pregnancy, you should have taken precautions but since you left everything to nature, then do not go around blaming other people.
It is important to always remember that your spouse is not your blood relative because those are likely to stick with you through thick and thin. But the human being you only met in this world and married can decide to leave you if they no longer find you worthy. So, as you open the door to unfaithfulness, be reminded that it will come with its cousins who cause nothing but regret and loss in the end.
“A bird in hand is worth two in the bush,” so they say. If you still have a desire for other people other than your spouse, you should plan to leave without them because cheating can only be rewarded with forgiveness or divorce. A few get forgiven but are tormented for the rest of their lives for that mistake; but many are shown the door.
It is so easy to think that you will not be caught but you should have a plan just in case you are caught and that plan should not involve crying and saying, “It was a mistake, I do not want to lose my marriage” because that is the weakest excuse anyone could ever give.
I once went to an Arabic restaurant and before they served my meal, they gave me a bottle of water. I wondered why since I had not asked for it but when I took my first bite, my mouth was on fire and surely I took a few sips of water to calm the fire from the hot chilli.
As the waiter, consider me the court process server who is serving you with the divorce papers even before you go out to cheat so that when you are caught and feel that heat, instead of crying and wasting everyone’s time, you just sign the divorce papers and move. It might not end this way, but it is a possibility you should keep in mind.
So, if you plan on begging your spouse not to end your marriage, there is one way of avoiding the whole scenario and that is staying faithful.