A conflict-free relationship is a fake one

Everyone wishes his or her relationship or marriage would just be a bed of roses but no, this only happens in dreams or movies. Real life has proven to us otherwise and if this is news to you, then I am sorry to break your heart. Our ancestors who loved before us tried but failed and I do not think you are going to be the first person to live in a conflict-free relationship.

Fighting does not mean you no longer love each other. It does not mean the feelings have died. As a matter of fact, you fight because you feel like your love; care and affection are not returned or treated fairly.

If siblings who share blood and ancestral background fight and pull each other’s hair, how about two people who were brought together by just feelings? Their feelings and emotions will be tested until they learn to live with each other.

But even so, at your 50th marriage anniversary, you might disagree on the cake, guest list or just the food. You just have to learn that storms will always be there but with love, no force can be strong enough to drown you. Patrick had numerous fights with his ex-girlfriend that left both of them bruised emotionally. He regretted how their relationship turned out and promised that when he finds love again, he would keep a blind eye to the woman’s mistakes. For the first few weeks, it seemed like it would work.

She was bad at keeping time and made him wait for hours but he was patient, she was the extravagant kind and Patrick obliged to every demand she made even when he could not afford it. He literally spoilt the girl too much that it started hurting him. The girl was, however, the kind who spoke her mind and whenever she did, Patrick switched to the mute mode. This drained her energy.

She wanted them to straighten a few issues between them but Patrick always feared that she would instead leave him thus played dumb. Eventually, the girl picked up habits to attract his attention. She could ring him at 3pm to come pick her from a club.

He played the perfect boyfriend until he could not take it anymore.
On the other hand, the girl started feeling like Patrick did not love her enough or he would be jealous at least once. She called it quits. Patrick asked us, “What do women really want? When you pick on her, she is hurt and when you do not, then she claims you do not love her enough!”

One word a friend told Patrick. “Women want real men, those who will keep a relationship alive even after a conflict.”