My husband could have joined a cult

What you need to know:

  • Examine yourself to see if at one time you did not practice what he does now.

Dear Heart to Heart, My husband and I have been together since 2006. In February, he told me to leave the home claiming God had told him that I had done something bad and sending me away was the punishment. Issue is he has forbidden me from cooking for him, touching his clothes, polishing his shoes or touching his money claiming I am unholy. He has put Rosaries on all doors in the house and locked the master bedroom. He even locked me out of the house one time but police intervened. I am worried. Could he have joined a cult?
Sheila

Moses Earthe. You made a mistake by involving police in family matters. Now where is the police? You should have involved family members. If you had called a family meeting or clan members, then they would have helped. But now you have to call the police and tell them “my husband does not sleep with me, nor eat what I cook.” Woman you have spoiled your marriage by involving the police.

Moses Tsek. Try to ask him if you can join his faith, then you will find out the truth about whether it is a cult. After that step, you will involve the family. I am wondering why you are not attending the same church. Do your best by following him and if is a cult, then you have a chance to convince him back.

Nabyonga Susan. Try your way out of his life. When most men get tired of the relationship, they use excuses to do away with you.

Phionah Kayongo. He is just scaring you. But if you can, run for your life. You may stay and he does something you won’t like.

Mouris Opolot. “God has told me syndrome” is just an excuse, and he knows that he or any other person cannot provide evidence to that effect. Again you do not have the right to ask for evidence either, because God is a Spirit. Just apply common sense and you might find that the man has got another juicy deal or he just wants to be. The same advise would apply if it was a man reporting a divorce threat by her citing “God told me syndrome”.

Mpamizo Emmanuel. It seems that your husband has developed a mental problem. He needs to see a psychiatrist as soon as possible.

Mpungu Paul. If he is not a cultist, then he is planning to bring in another woman and he wants you out.
Alex G Mugisha. Those rosaries at every door means its true God had spoken to him but not the God you are thinking of. The true God would never speak of divorce.

Onen Moses. He does not want to see you in his home. You should pack and go.

Barbara Namwebya. Kindly take time to honestly pray and fast about it, I trust the Lord will let you know the truth.

Katushabe Ivan. Yes, he could have joined a cult. A way forward you ask? Run!

Judith Rubarema. He has joined cult run for your dear life.

counsellor's take
Ali male, Uganda Counselling Association
Speak to concerned people about his behaviour

Dear Sheila, it is shocking and alarming to see a sudden change of behaviour that you do not seem to understand. But there is a lot for you to explore.
When did the issue of rosaries start? Be sure to find out if he is not following illusion in worship. Also do self-examination on why he thinks you are not holy because it is important to cleanse your conscience so that you do not become guilty.
Do you know what his religion was before his recent behaviour? Examine yourself to see if at one time you did not practice what he does now. You must closely watch out on who his religious leader is. It may be the leader that is misleading him. Also speak to your relatives about your concerns so that they can help you find a way out.
It is, therefore, important that you do not give up. Give him time; pray for him while you stay pure to avoid guilt. Be principled and focus. Generally always explore your beliefs before you affect others.

Compiled by Beatrice Nakibuuka