Overcoming post-holiday blues as a couple

As a couple, you must find time to rest, exercise, and engage in activities that bring joy. When you take care of yourselves individually, you bring more energy and positivity into your relationship.
What you need to know:
- Reflecting on the positive moments from the holiday season can help couples carry some of that joy into the New Year
The holiday season often brings joy through family gatherings, special meals, and a break from work obligations. However, as the festivities end, it is common to feel a sense of emptiness or even anxiety about returning to everyday responsibilities. This phenomenon, often referred to as the "post-holiday blues," can be challenging, particularly as daily routines resurface. Ruth Nakiranda, a psychologist, says post-holiday blues are a natural response to the abrupt end of the excitement and high energy of the festive season. For couples, these feelings can be exacerbated by financial stress due to overspending or unresolved tensions that may have been ignored during the holidays.
Recognising the signs
James Mukasa, a relationship coach, explains that post-holiday blues can manifest in various ways. Couples might experience irritability, withdrawal, a decline in intimacy, or a lack of enthusiasm in their relationship. “Other signs include feeling unmotivated or fatigued, financial worries, disagreements over holiday spending, resentment over unmet expectations, and a sense of disconnection between partners,” Mukasa notes. He adds that recognising these signs early is crucial for addressing them effectively. Nakiranda advises couples to acknowledge that post-holiday blues are normal. “It is okay to feel a bit low after such an exciting time,” she explains. “Approach these feelings with understanding and compassion for each other.” Reflecting on the positive moments from the holiday season can help couples carry some of that joy into the New Year. “Discussing what you enjoyed most during the holidays not only shifts focus away from what has ended but also strengthens emotional connections,” Nakiranda says.
Creating new traditions
Mukasa suggests estab - lishing small rituals to keep the holiday spirit alive. “You do not need a Christmas tree to create joy. Plan regular date nights, cook a special meal together, or start a gratitude journal as a couple. These small acts can reignite excitement in your relationship,” he advises.
Addressing financial strain
Financial worries are a common source of stress after the holidays. Nakiranda recommends couples review their expenses and create a realistic financial plan for the year ahead. “Be transparent about money and set achievable goals,” she says. “Start saving for the next holiday season early by setting aside a small amount each month. This not only reduces financial strain but also gives you something to look forward to.
Prioritising self-care
As the New Year begins, many people feel pressured by resolutions and commitments. Nakiranda reminds couples to prioritise self-care. “Rest, exercise, and engage in activities that bring joy. When you take care of yourselves individually, you bring more energy and positivity into your relationship,” she advises.
Open communication
Marriage counsellor Robert Kirumira emphasises the importance of communicanavigating post-holiday blues. “Discuss your feelings without fear of judgment. Address any unmet expectations or disappointments respectfully. Bottling up emotions only leads to resentment,” he warns. Kirumira also recom - mends setting realistic expectations for the New Year. “Do not put too much pressure on yourselves to achieve everything at once. It is okay to pace yourselves,” he says.
Rekindling romance
The festive season often provides ample opportunities for romance, but couples may find their connection waning after the celebrations. “Romance does not require grand gestures,” Nakiranda explains. “Simple acts such as leaving a heartfelt note, making your partner’s favourite breakfast, or sending a thoughtful text can reignite intimacy.
Turn challenges into opportunities
While post-holiday blues can be overwhelming, they also offer growth opportunities. Couples can use this time to strengthen their bond and set a positive tone for the year ahead. “Every relationship has ups and downs. What matters is how you navigate these challenges together,” Mukasa notes. He suggests planning outings, tackling projects together, celebrating small achievements, and staying active through shared exercise “If feelings of sadness persist, consider seeking professional guidance,” he advises.
Managing expectations
Mukasa encourages couples to discuss unfulfilled expectations constructively. “Use ‘I’ statements instead of ‘you’ statements to avoid blame,” he says. For example, instead of saying, “You did not help with the children during Christmas,” try, “I felt overwhelmed managing everything over the holidays and would appreciate more support next time.” Focusing on joyful moments from the holidays and expressing gratitude can help shift the narrative from disappointment to appreciation.
Aligning goals
The start of a new year is an excellent time for couples to align their individual and shared goals. “Start with small, achievable goals such as saving for a joint purchase, trying a new hobby together, or strengthening your spiritual connection,” Mukasa suggests.
Building a support system
A strong support system can make navigating post-holiday challenges easier. Kirumira advises couples to stay connected with family and friends and to engage in community activities. “Volunteering together or participating in group events can strengthen your bond while giving back to society,” he says