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The dangers of blind trust in relationships

What you need to know:

  • While love and trust are important in relationships, they must be accompanied by wisdom and legal safeguards.
  • Women working abroad or investing in family projects should protect their financial interests by ensuring transparency and legal documentation.


The heartbreaking story of a woman who spent five years working tirelessly in the United Arab Emirates, only to return home and find her husband living with another woman in the house she financed, is a glaring example of betrayal and deception. Unfortunately, such incidents are not isolated; many men and women face similar betrayals after sacrificing so much for their families. This situation raises critical questions about trust, financial responsibility, and legal protections that should be in place to prevent such injustices.

Women, especially those working abroad or in long-distance relationships, must take proactive steps to protect their interests. They should directly oversee investments instead of relying entirely on their partners. While trust is essential in any relationship, blind trust can be dangerous.

If a woman is sending money for investment purposes, she should actively oversee the project by involving a trusted third party such as a lawyer, a financial advisor, or a close relative who has her best interests at heart. It is also important to document financial transactions, ensuring that every financial contribution is well-documented. Receipts, agreements, and proof of remittances should be kept safely, and women should insist on joint ownership of assets if they are financing a project. Securing property in their names is one of the most effective ways to prevent betrayal.

If a woman is funding the construction of a house, her name should be on the land title and other legal documents. Staying in touch with family through regular communication with children, relatives, and friends can help ensure that things back home are running as expected. If possible, periodic visits or surprise inspections can prevent fraud and deception. Educating children on their rights is also crucial to ensure they are not manipulated by a dishonest parent in the case of displacement due to infidelity or deceit.

Men must understand that relationships are built on trust, honesty, and mutual respect. Betrayal not only causes emotional damage but also has legal and social consequences. They should respect and honour commitments by appreciating and reciprocating the sacrifices made by their partners. If a woman is working hard to build a future for her family, a responsible husband should honour her sacrifice rather than take advantage of her absence.

Financial transparency is crucial, and if there are challenges managing finances, it is better to communicate openly rather than misappropriate funds meant for family welfare. Avoiding infidelity is another important aspect, as relationships suffer when one partner is unfaithful. Commitment is key to a healthy and successful marriage. Being a responsible father is equally essential since no child should suffer because of a parent's mistakes. Men must ensure that children are not neglected or displaced from their rightful homes.

For women who find themselves in such heartbreaking situations, the law provides remedies. Property rights protection can help if the woman can prove that she financed the house, allowing her to legally claim ownership. She can seek legal assistance to have the property transferred to her name if it was fraudulently registered under her husband's name.

Custody of children can also be pursued through the courts, which prioritise the welfare of children. If a mother’s children have been displaced or hidden, she can seek legal intervention to regain custody and provide them with a safe environment. Compensation for financial losses may be sought if a husband misuses funds that were meant for family development.

While love and trust are important in relationships, they must be accompanied by wisdom and legal safeguards. Women working abroad or investing in family projects should protect their financial interests by ensuring transparency and legal documentation.

Men, on the other hand, should honour their commitments and act with integrity. In cases where betrayal occurs, the law must step in to ensure justice is served. No person should have to endure such heartache after years of sacrifice. As a society, we must advocate for fairness, legal accountability, and the protection of family values.