These two women are confusing me

The problem
Dear Heart to Heart, I recently met a girl that I love so much. She comes from a wealthy family and does not need anything from me. She seems to love me too, but there are some aspects I feel that she falls short of and despite trying to explain to her, she does not want to comply. She has spent just one night at my house and comes by during the day. Before I met her though, there is a girl I used to hang with. She confessed to having feelings for me but respects the fact that I am in a relationship and wishes me happiness. My girl calls me five times a day, texts me and sends pictures of where she is. She, however, sometimes does things to hurt me and sometimes I feel she is taking us for granted. The other girl sticks out for me, she is the one I call when I am sad. How can I tell my girlfriend how I feel without her thinking I am after her money? I do not want to lose her.
-Bryan
Your solutions

Tell her the truth before it is too late, because you seem undecided on who to be with. And how come you call the ‘other girl’ when you are low? Why not call your girlfriend?
Decide and let her know before it is too late and do not waste her time if you do not have true love for her.
Elizabeth

Before you start complaining about your girlfriend, decide which of the girls you are in love with, because you seem confused. If you have mixed feelings, it is easier for you to see only faults in your girlfriend. Choose who you love without putting doubts, and stop weighing who is better than the other.
Josephine

The boy who wants his cake and eats it too. You are clearly infatuated with the girl but you also want to stay with your girlfriend because she is financially stable and not too “needy” or dependant. You seem to be on different wave lengths and relationship expectations. Every person has their good and bad traits. Simply choose which traits you can best put up with in one of the girls, otherwise there is no easy breakup.
Zawedde

Ssonko Abhus Muko Junior: I am still looking for a meaning in your story. What in particular do you want her to do? To ask you for money? Oh please, get off the fantasy line. If you really love her, show her what love is. Let her find the meaning of that four-letter amazing word - love - in you. Do things to make her feel like whatever she is, she cannot live without you.

Emmanuel B’Gisha: You cannot chase two at once. If you take this temptation into marriage, you will end up with an MBA (Married But Available).

Emma Kamala: Boy, if you cannot keep up with the Kardashians of this world, then find your level with this other girl who understands your insecurities. If you cannot soar with the eagles, then just hang out with the chickens.

Isingoma Emmanuel: Focus on figuring out the meaning of love and try to defend the law of manhood that “Man was born a hunter not prey”.

Nibs Birungi: Be with the girl your heart wants, that is the girl you call when you are low. Money is not going to last, but love does.

Nim Rogers: Your feelings seem to be with the poor girl.

Peter Paul Balikuddembe: I am also facing the same problem, but I consider the fact that she is faithful and honest, and this makes me love her more. Do not mix up things. What more love do you need besides the respect she offers?

Tibuhwa Deus Mandela: When you run after every one, in the end you will lose both. Stick to the original plan you had with the first girl.

Enzama Albert: Set your rules as a man, use those executive powers God gave you to stand tall as a man amid a tough situation like this. We love those who love us back without strings attached.

Sen Ben Shadrack: First of all sit her down and tell her about your values, morals, principles and above all the fear of God. Tell her your expectations from a real woman. If she agrees to your side, then prayerfully commit her case unto the Lord and train her in the ways you want your woman to be and in no time, every other thing will fall in place.
Mwebaze Edward Mwebaze: If she does not need anything from you, then why do you get concerned with her?

Eligant Juliet: You think she has everything, but no because when a girl truly loves you, she won’t be demanding but expects you to act as a man. I have been a prey of such men. Trust me, bad relationships change good people.

Mutale Godfrey Nyago Nicholas: Bro, the one you call when you are in trouble and gives you comfort is the one.

Larky Emma: May be you are trying too hard to impress her with what she is already used to. Show her the other side of you.

Counsellor says > Steven Langa, Family Life Network

Dear Brian, a relationship works on a set of values that you set for yourself. If you are running it with an impression that money is the issue, then it will be so. Let your actions not betray your words. If you love this girl for who she is, then behave in a way that shows that money was not your intention of getting her.
Value her for who she is and not her money. Character is something that can be built any time and you cannot know if she is okay with your character.
However much you try to hide, women have a sixth sense so she will find out. You seem to be in love with the girl you hang out with but you cannot double play women. She will soon find out you are not sincere with her.
You are confusing the two girls and trying to raise hopes for the other girl because you speak to her when you get problems. If you want to get the best out of a woman, just stick to only one and if she realises you trust her, she will do anything for you.
If you speak to someone only when you are happy and speak to another when you are sad, you will not get anything from any of them. It is upon you to decide which girl you want to have but you cannot serve two masters at a time.

Compiled by Beatrice Nakibuuka

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