The clash between Exco and Board

I have been on my employers EXCO for the last three years and over time I have come to appreciate the dynamics between the Board and management. Of late, however, every time we meet it feels like its a boxing match. How can I work around this challenge? Sheila 

Hello Sheila, what an interesting way you have defined the relationship between the Board and management. I am sure there are many who empathise with you and many who have been in your shoes. One aspect that you need to remember is that the Board in essence is your supervisor and if you recall when you started out in the world of work, you probably had a bumpy ride with your supervisor before you settled. Same thing here and now, ask yourself how you settled the dynamics.

It is important to remember as you deal with the Board or the Board sub-committee you engage with that it is about getting to a win-win and in order to do so you need to have a good relationship. 

Many Board members are selected based on their technical expertise, and so they should because they are responsible for looking after the company on behalf of the shareholder. However, when it comes to operationalisation of work, one needs to remember that how you engage and give constructive feedback is equally important. 

Allow me to share that I report to the Board and my Board is tough. They hold me fully accountable but how they hold me accountable matters. I can assure you, I get told but it is done in a manner that allows you grace but the message is clear. What may also help you is to think about your circle of influence vs your circle of control. Focus on how you can influence your Board, build a good respectful relationship with them and avoid repeating the same mistakes.