Saturday June 14 2014

Dickson Zizinga: I’m not married; just a man with a wife

Zizinga says he has fathered five children with four women,

Zizinga says he has fathered five children with four women, but that does not make him a married man. Photo by Rachel Ajwang. 

Describe yourself.
I am Dickson Zzizinga, a simple man. I’m 40 years old. I like calling myself an amphibian because I’m always free with every situation. Just like an amphibian which can live both on water and land.

Where did you attend school?
I went to Kangulumira Nursery School in Kayunga District, then joined St Ponsiano Primary School, and I went to Kampala Secondary School, thereafter.
I joined Pioneer Adult School in Kayunga before enrolling for Adult Literacy in 2005 and Basic Education Centre (ALBEC) at Makerere University, in 2006.
Are you married?
It depends on what you call married. To me, a married man is the one with an official wife. I have five children from four different mothers and all of them are from different tribes. Even when filling the national identity card registration forms, you do not fill in that you’re married when you don’t have a marriage certificate. I don’t have it, so, I’m not a married man.
So, you don’t expect to get married?
I’m going to remain a man with a wife, but not a married man.

What do you like or hate in a relationship?
Care and patience are what I like best in a relationship. When partners care for each other, it keeps a relationship going strong. The one thing I hate in a relationship is lack of respect for each other.
When I say lack of respect, I’m referring to things like cheating. The other thing would be doing the exact things you know your partner doesn’t like, such as getting wasted away from over drinking.

Do you mind women making their first move on a man?
At first I used to mind it because I considered such women cheap, but now we are living in another world, a free world. A world where a woman is free to choose what she wants, therefore I find that very okay.

Would you date a woman who is not educated?
Whether educated or not, I don’t care. I just want a woman who can respect me as her husband.

Would you let a woman take care of your responsibilities at home?
Yes, if she earns more than I do. Why not? I cannot stop her from paying the bills; school fees, rent and all other necessities when I know she earns more than me, I could be in position to afford them but only when I know without any doubt that she can afford to pay for everything. I would feel bad about it though.
My only fear is some women take advantage of that and don’t respect you because you earn less than they do. I want one who can still take my orders and treat me like the head of the family, regardless of the income inequalities.

What is the one trait in you that you would like your wife to also have?
The same way I don’t like associating and making friends with single men, I would not want my wife to have friends who are not in relationships either. Such friends, instead of advising her accordingly, would give her negative counsel. I imagine that perhaps most of them are not in relationships because they are in multiple relationships. I fear they could easily lure her into their cheating ways if she hangs out with them.

Women always say all men are the same, do you agree with it?
Ideally, I don’t think all men are the same, I think there are two different types of men. The corporate men and the ordinary men. The corporate is the one who will let her wife go out with friends even when he is not with her, he won’t care who is calling her wife late in the night.
The ordinary man is the one who still wants his woman to kneel down when serving him or when welcoming him back from work.

Before comedy, what were you doing?
I have done several jobs which I can’t start mentioning and finish. But my recent job before I started comedy was cab driving, I started driving cabs in 1994 till 2012; I then started comedy and acting in 1997 up to know. I joined Dembe FM in 2011.

But those years are confusing, in which year did you do what?
I was a cab driver and at the same time a comedian, from 1994 when I was driving cabs, I then started comedy in in 1997, but I still drove a cab. I had two jobs then. I left cab driving in 2012 after I joined Dembe FM.
Did you leave Dembe for NTV/Bukedde, or work for all?
I work for a company called Maiden Africa, it is a South African company, it owns the programme I host (Mini Buzz). It has the right to air its programmes on any local TV station. It was at first on NTV.
What do you like the most about your job?
I have always wanted to do a job that doesn’t give me hard time. Now that I work on TV and as an actor, I find it less stressing. I just don’t like tedious jobs.

Tit Bits

Your preferred woman’s tribe?
I don’t mind the tribe because I think all woman are the same.
Woman more financially stable than you?
As long as she respects me as head of the family. But ultimately, I’d feel bad if a woman took over my responsibilities.

What is that one thing that is common with today’s women?
Today’s women are money minded, they think a relationship only stands when there is money. They always have a common saying that goes that love cannot foot the bills, its money that can foot the bills.

Would you find love in the bar?
No, I wouldn’t date someone I meet in the bar. The reason is simple, the bar is a place you will find different kinds of women, prostitutes, the ones with problems and other types. So while in the bar you can mistakenly go home with the worst type. You end up in a relationship with someone you will regret after.