Tell your issues to the right person

Mark Zuckerberg and company have all through 2016 reminded me, I guess you too about posts that I put on my wall a year(s) ago and trust me they are pathetic.
Besides the pitiable and annoying grammar, peppered with short hand, there is a lot of complaining about whatever occurred to me. Every single post or sentence was about friends who betrayed me, lovers who jilted me and all those little rumblings.
They bored me as well each time I saw them pop and without taking a second look, deleted them, on a daily basis.

Challenges
Those posts nag. They drain the little respect one had for you. They make everything about you seem lame and everyone imagines you are the kind that is only good at whining—one that never keeps anything to him or herself but tries to solicit sympathy from an unbothered lot. I realised I was only barking up the wrong tree.
I vividly recall this particular post that read: “True friends are rare, next time I will choose better”. My friends then, at campus had ‘played’ me and since I was naïve then and did not have the guts to face them, I chose to post. At that time, there is always a kind of relief you feel and a false sigh of victory when you are fooled into thinking you are communicating to them directly. But that is not the case.
Now it is worse with whatsapp in play. Imagine you just broke up with your fiancé and all you do is change your profile which most people refer to as dp, in a flash (What is dp by the way?) I was so engrossed in this habit too. I would survey the internet for matching posts on pin interest and make sure they communicated really well. See how you bother yourself just to put a message across—yet you could achieve the same by just texting the person, if you cannot shut up.
Has someone ever accused you of displaying your personal life on social media and you even wonder what that means? From experience, your posts speak volumes about your psychological or emotional state, even the physical. So, all you need to do is tone down.

Dealing with it
But the best way to do it is; if the person you are trying to fire back at is nearby, face them and say it to their face. In case they are miles away, the same rules apply; tell them through a text or call. This in a way is also known as minding one’s business.
I used to think that minding your business meant keeping your eyes, nose and mouth out of another’s business. But no, it also means that you learn to keep some if not most of the things to yourself or if you must speak them out, direct them to your intended audience.
It was quiet embarrassing for my pastor to forward me my profile picture that read: Whoever I wronged in 2016, fight your own devils! You didn’t speak out, I am not a psychic and apologising en masse is not my thing”.
I had innocently borrowed it from a colleague and in the same spirit uploaded it. In all honesty it was not directed to anyone.
Pastor was reeling in shock. I replaced it with my sweet selfie at the drop of a hat. Now see how the pastor who has been sweating away Sunday to Sunday preaching forgiveness lands on such a note.
Well, in some cases we do not even intend to pull off these messages.
Sometimes they only sound hilarious and worth using. But then we should not forget the fact that different people interprete messages differently.
I did not care much about what anyone thought until I received messages from friends assuring me how my dps were inspiring because they would relate with them. Out of excitement I kept using those kinds of dps until some guy, one that I had always crushed on but was certain I could never get, wrote to me…
In an extensive text, he gave me his thoughts: Ethel, your whole life is all out there. I have crushed on you for a year but can never date you because of that. You do not have a private life.
Each time I check your whatsapp profile photos expecting to get a photo of some cute face and lips there, all I am welcomed with is a message with ingredients of whining, cursing, and regret.
Ahem! This was very heartbreaking by the way. With my heart in my mouth, I went silent to date, so did he!