I have decided to stay with my new pregnant girl

I got there early and asked for fruit juice. I wanted to take some time and think about my situation, try to get a grip of the circumstances in which I found myself. The girl I was dating, or rather starting to date, was pregnant; just a few weeks pregnant. It had not yet started to show, and she had not seen this as something I should know about. She still did not know that I knew.


Or, perhaps she believed that I should have figured it out by myself. But I had not. I am not psychic. I am as clueless as the next man about these things. A friend - a girl - is the one who had told me that my new belle was definitely pregnant. And so, here I was, waiting for her to join me so I could ask her about this. I had felt that was a topic best discussed face-to-face.


She walked in looking delicately beautiful. I could not help take my eyes from off her face and stray down to her belly. There was hardly a bulge. I still was not certain she was actually pregnant. If she denied it, I would believe her.
But she did not deny it. I hugged her, and she took a seat. She looked happy to see me, but I was focused on the topic I needed to get this solved.

So after asking about her day and her work, I told her there was something very important I wanted to talk about. Immediately her face clouded. She knew that I knew. I cut straight to the point; ‘are you pregnant?’ She took sometime before she answered. Looking straight at me, she said, “yes”. But she did not offer more information. I kept looking at her expectantly, but she was not going to elaborate. So I asked her, “is this something we can discuss?” “I would rather not,” she said. Clearly she was not ready to discuss the issue.


The question was; was I ready to live with this, or should I walk away now when things were not yet complex?
I had developed feelings for her, and I would hate to lose her. But a woman who was newly pregnant and did not want to talk about it raised very many questions. Questions that needed answers; because a healthy relationship cannot be sustained with such big gaps of information.


Then she asked if she could leave, and walked off. I watched her leave, and I was almost sure I would never hear from her again. But that evening, she called me. And she told me that it was a painful topic, it was her abusive ex-boyfriend who was responsible. She had left him before she realised she was pregnant, that was just about two months ago.


And when she had found out, she had decided she was not going back. I was purely an accident in her life, it is not that she was trying to hide it all, she just was caught in a tricky situation.
Then she told me that if I did not want to see her, she would understand. I asked her to give me some time to think it through. It took me two weeks to make my decision. I decided to stay.