Letter to Desire Luzinda’s future husband

Dear Sir, I salute you with a victory sign, to congratulate you upon winning the heart of one of Uganda’s most colourful women. Desire is a desirable woman, and you are in a place hundreds have desired in vain. Count yourself lucky to have her for a wife.

Don’t lose sleep over adoring losers; fans or haters. But let me tell you three things; One about Desire, Two, about yourself, and Three, marrying a woman of Desire’s calibre.

Desire is a human being, not an object of desire. When you are with her, don’t imagine she is a sex tool to gratify yourself - men in her past have. You have to be different from them all, to stand out for her. Be a husband, not a “boyfie”.

Protect and cherish Desire from the bastards that have ripped into her heart in the past. Hold her like the pupil of your eye, sit and talk with her about her fears and life’s aspirations. If she craves attention, give it to her. And if she disappoints you, like it is the case with all humans, don’t be an imbecile to think about how to embarrass her.

You might be thinking about those photos that leaked years ago, don’t ever remind her of them, especially when angry. Walk past them. That was only an epoch in her life just as you fell on your nose when you were learning how to walk as a child.

Never use your partner’s privacy as a tool of abuse; their private photo album, videos, or knowledge that might be in your possession by virtue of being their partner. While one has a right to use their privacy the way they love best, no one is allowed to share another’s private details without their permission.

Secondly, I congratulate you once again for winning Desire, and I pray you have taken your time to ask yourself whether she is the person you really desire. If your heart desires Desire, follow it, irrespective of what people say. Your heart will never lie to you. It will stand by you even when you go wrong, and after everyone has abandoned you.

Every man loves a girl he can boast about, for a wife. I guess it is even more heroic to parade Desire for a wife. Embrace the moment. Desires are not born every day.

A kadongo kamu maestro, Gerald Kiweewa, sang Eggaali Ekozeeko, a song about a woman who had dated and married severally. He concludes – if you marry this kind, you will have a blissful marriage because she has seen it all. I know Desire could be just another victim of male lust – like has been the case for many women before her who suffer sexual abuse.

Ultimately, she is responsible for her decisions, choices and actions. But, men like you need to address themselves on how they treat beautiful women. They aren’t sexual objects please. If you are into her for experimental purposes, please, dare not tear her heart into pieces, further.

You want to marry Desire, please, don’t marry Desire, the star. Don’t even marry her bountiful body. Marry her person; the nice, caring Desire. Marry the wife in her to be your lifelong companion, and marry that mother in her, to raise your children responsibly.

Lastly, a word on relationships; It is only human beings who sleep with their enemies. That is so, because, human beings can disguise their intentions to a point where you can talk to a person planning to kill you.

A word of caution: Trust your dear Desire, but when you open up; always leave something to yourself that you may reveal the next day. So dear Future husband to Desire, if she does something that doesn’t please you, have the courage to talk things in private, and not shout in the market.

Yours truly,
Desire’s fan.

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