Compromise is not a sign of weakness

In an effort to make a relationship or marriage work, the couple is required to adjust their buttons so as to fit in marriage. Marriage is accepting to share space with a stranger whom you cannot live without. The easiest way is to compromise and accommodate each other.
However, if I adjust my mannerisms, beliefs and even dreams and yet my partner is not appreciating the effort, there is no need then. This girl you fell in love with and jailed with that ring is doing all she can to be the good wife and mother to your children, if you take her compromise for weakness, you are insulting her intentions.

Sacrifice
Betty gave up a job that required her to work at the weekend and leave relatively late when she had her first baby. Moses her husband worked so hard and brought in a bigger chunk of income. He hated restaurant foods and always enjoyed fresh juice made by his wife.

Betty resigned to give her husband and child more time. She was less stressed in the first two months, she made food in time and she didn’t have to rush from work just to make Moses dinner and fresh juice.

Moses was the best husband then; he came back in time, did grocery shopping every weekend and provided for the family with no hustle. After a few months, he started being stingy on money, coming back home late and carrying work home. When Betty complained, his reply gave her a rush, “if you were working, you would know how important it is to keep a job.” The same comments continued flowing each time she asked for money from him, “You should use money sparingly; some of us work so hard to get it.”

Too broke?
The climax of the silent torture was when he refused to give her money to go for her brother’s wedding. Betty tried covering up for her husband to the brother but she broke down on the phone, she couldn’t believe she was too broke to attend her brother’s wedding. Her brother drove to her house and ordered her to get in the car.
When Betty called to ask for permission to go to her parents’ home, Moses arrogantly told her,” I do not have money for weddings right now.” Betty’s brother snatched the phone from her and told him, “Don’t worry, I have the money to take care of my sister. If you are interested in knowing, my wedding is this weekend and I have come to take my sister and nephew. I will make sure they return safely.”

Jobs opportunity
Moses panicked, Betty was ashamed but her brother was too angry to even talk. At her parents’ home, her family took her through the ‘independent woman’ lectures and after the wedding, her brother made a few calls. She was invited in for an interview and luckily, she was hired. When she broke the news that she had got a job, Moses froze.

“Who will take care of the baby?” he asked.
“Don’t worry, I will hire a maid,” she replied.
Betty realised that she had given up too much for her family’s sake and she was not appreciated for it. Moses was robbed of the opportunity of having fresh juice every evening and since Betty’s job is equally well-paying, she no longer asks for shopping money or anything. Moses is trying to get back his wife but it seems he is too late.