Thought and Ideas
Homosexuality: Is it a normal or sick lifestyle?
Posted Sunday, January 20 2013 at 02:00
Equal treatment. Homosexuals, male and female, require our utmost sympathy and understanding. Most gays and lesbians at a professional and public level, live normal lives as they themselves often emphasise. They should be granted the basic rights of citizenship that ordinary people enjoy.
Last Sunday, January 13, a large crowd of over 340,000 in the French capital, Paris, staged a demonstration against proposals by President François Hollande to legalise gay marriage and the adoption of children by gays and lesbians.
On January 11, Victoria University in Kampala woke up to the news that its affiliate in Britain, Buckingham University, was cutting all financial aid because of the controversial David Bahati anti-homosexuality Bill of 2009.
It was the first concrete decision taken against Uganda by a Western institution ever since the country gained the perceived title of homophobic capital of the world.
Considering that France is one of the most liberal and secular Western countries, it was interesting to see such a large crowd of French citizens demonstrate in 2013 against (of all current Western obsessions) gay marriage, while Uganda, the country that is supposedly the most anti-homosexual in the world, has never succeeded in marshalling more than 500 anti-gay activists at any one demonstration.
Even in the United States, where gay rights are supposed to be at their most accepted and protected, only 10 of America’s 50 states have voted to sanction gay marriage.
It raises the question, obviously, that if France and America can see such widespread hostility to gay marriage, why does this same West find it so surprising and annoying that the much more conservative, religious and rural Uganda should feel likewise?
Anti-gay activists like Mr Bahati and Pastor Martin Ssempa (especially Ssempa) have sometimes been a little too abrasive and insensitive in their campaign against homosexual activity in Uganda.
However, their controversial statements aside, the accumulated scientific research and psychiatric studies over the last 100 years (including those carried out in the more promiscuous 1960s decade) have consistently pointed to the fact that the phenomenon of homosexuality from a scientific and not even religious point of view is at best a result of severe developmental problems.
Even homosexuals themselves recognise this, their current defiance and “gay pride”, notwithstanding.
In early 2010, the Uganda-born, US-based writer Victoria Dara-Wilson appeared on the KFM Hot Seat programme. She married a man in the United States whom, she later discovered and who admitted, was gay.
Dara-Wilson told host Charles Mwanguhya-Mpagi that this traumatic experience got her researching as much as she could into homosexuality. According to her, there is no gay who would ever have wished to be gay.
In that sense homosexuals, male and female, require our utmost sympathy and understanding. Most gays and lesbians at a professional and public level, live normal lives as they themselves often emphasise.
To that extent, they should be granted the basic rights of citizenship that ordinary people enjoy.
Where some of us start to disagree with them, is when they go past demanding full legal rights in the countries they live in and actually declare or imply that there is something wrong, primitive, prejudiced and “homophobic” about the majority of the population that find gays odd or repulsive.
A “normal” person, that is, a heterosexual, should under ordinary circumstances find the very idea of homosexuality repugnant.
It is this revulsion toward homosexuality that, by definition, makes a heterosexual a heterosexual, otherwise if it weren’t so, gays would not be a distinct minority in every single country on earth.
Last week’s demonstration in France was proof of that.
Ironically, gays and lesbians in their relationships assume and aspire for all the features and routines of a traditional, heterosexual life.
How it happens
A domineering woman will be the “male” and her more gentle lesbian partner will be the “female”, while among the gay men the more assertive one acts out the “male” role and the more passive one acts the “female”.
In the Western world, gays have in recent years campaigned for the right to be granted that most traditional and mainstream of relationships --- marriage. Practically everything homosexuals campaign for, demand or try to act out is drawn from the very traditional institutions and social norms that they reject, in the first place.
Gays want to be “normal”, wish to be accepted as “normal” by the “normal” majority and from seeking to adopt children in France and Britain, to marriage, to the right to work in any institution without discrimination, their every aspiration seems to be of the most traditional and conservative kind.
The world of homosexuals, therefore, appears to be a distortion of the norm and deep in their innermost minds, homosexuals yearn to be “straight”. Homosexuals, to put it another way, are wannabe heterosexuals. What is the root cause of homosexuality?
Most psychologists and the pioneering psychiatrists agree that homosexual tendencies started to take shape in early childhood or sometimes at the turn of puberty due to a whole range of complex reasons.