Baby mamas, daddies drama more than what meets the eye
Thinking out Loud: When I advised men to marry their baby mamas on this column two weeks ago, some supposed guilty ones became defensive, some victims agreed and yet some baby mamas claimed they would never marry their baby daddies.
Also read: If you do not marry your baby mama, who do you think will?
Surprisingly, most readers defended the baby daddies and crucified baby mamas. Bernard Namaande for example said, “Before you judge men, first find out why those women leave their husbands. Some women are too hard to marry. They want a supermarket as introduction which may not be available to the poor generation.” the question is, why would a man bring a life into the world if he is not ready to provide for him/her and the mother?
Angela Kigozi’s comment attracted the most reactions. Angela asked the baby mamas, “But why conceive out of wedlock? Let’s learn to do the right thing.” It took me back to a column I shared before, “staying a virgin until marriage is not lack of opportunities”.
Ann Natukunda, scorned baby daddies, “dear baby daddies, we do not want you to marry us. A child is never a good reason to marry.” Kizito Mudambo replied to Ann that, “There is no good enough reason for marriage and there never was! Even love is not good reason enough for marriage because I have seen some people who married for love divorce. There are those who have married because of lust and the marriage worked out and others did not work out…”
Like Ann, Spacey Kawa dismissed the idea of being married by her baby daddy, “ah ah, give us a break, we do not want to marry our baby daddies; those are mistakes we do not want to repeat.”
Other comments from readers included:
Maggie Kawuma. It is because our laws are very soft on men. I prefer Sharia law (on marriage) to work in Uganda.
Men should not be just sperm donors but should take responsibility for their actions and now that we know some men are not ready to be fathers, let all women be cautious. Do not be blinded by your feelings because in the end, it’s the child who suffers. Stop being selfish and be a responsible parent to your children.
