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Joint plans help you manage holiday season stress as a team
Christmas time can be a stressful time for couples. Making joint plans for surviving Christmas ahead of time may help you fill this supposedly joyful season with maximum love and minimum heartache. Joint plans help you manage holiday season stress as a team.
Often, couples face different challenges during the festive season. For example, there are couples where one partner immerses themselves in the festive cheer while the other does not care. There are those who have differed views on how to celebrate and those of different faiths. There are usually arguments about whose family to spend the holiday with or whether to spend them with family at all.
Often, each partner reasons differently due to various reasons including past traumas, memories held dear and interactions with each other’s family, among other reasons. The list is endlessly long, not to mention all that extra time together can put a strain on the relationship.
Every year, there is a huge spike in separation and divorce rates just after the Christmas holidays. A number of couples make the decision to part ways just days after watching Christmas movies and sharing really hearty meals with each other.
Christmas can also be very romantic and ideally, we would love to be splitting crackers and dancing to Christmas songs while we cook together with our partners but that is unfortunately usually very far from the reality.
So, before I drag this on perhaps, I should share my personal survival tips for loved ones.
Most couples usually spend more time panicking about having the perfect Christmas as opposed to planning how to maximise on their quality time with each other. Plan what you can and do not fuss over what you are not able to accomplish. Just be glad you are going to be spending time with each other.
Another big stress about the holidays is spending. Financial matters always bring about contention. One might want to spend too much whereas the other just thinks they should be minimal with the Christmas spending.
Make sure you have the money discussions as early as November. The spending bills on décor, presents and food can cause much undesired frustration between a couple with some blowing up arguments. Dependent on what type of couple you are, I would say put your relationship/unit first. There is no rule in any book that says you must spend the actual day with your family. In fact, I would suggest spending Christmas Day with each other and finding a way to fit both your families into the schedule for Boxing Day.
Ask yourselves what you can do to stop things from getting out of hand during the holiday season and how best your relationship can survive without drowning in all the noise that comes with it. Stay safe and happy holidays.