Maid video: The underlying issues

Ivan Okuda
The maid remains innocent untill court has pronounced her guilty or she pleads thus. For that matter, we can only speak of her as a suspect. But be that as it may, the maid is being condemned from all directions and we forget the underlying issues.
I talked to the parents but was shocked how parents can be negligent in matters of their children’s lives. Apart from the name of the maid, the parents knew nothing about her background, personality, or previous workplace.
The mother has the audacity to confess that whenever she asked about her background, the maid refused to talk. Really? We can give all sorts of excuses for not doing due diligence but bottom line is, today’s parents think money will do everything.
The reason a “monster” can be employed without a mother cross checking the basics of her background. And, of course, it goes into how we treat maids.
How many parents talk to them after work to assess their job satisfaction levels, give them days off, or openly discuss their pay? I blame the parents because people will always be evil anyway. The parents have got to put safety nets that protect their families.

Benjie
The maid is a reflection of society. What she did is inexcusable and she has to pay for it. That said, It looks like her anger, unjustifiable and inexcusable as it may be, was an act of revenge against the parents. I think there are issues surrounding this whole thing that we are ignoring.
People mistreat their maids, beat them up, underpay them, starve them, treat them like they are sub-human etc. If we had CCTV cameras in homes, I’m sure we would have more cases of parents getting arrested than maids.
I am not making excuses for the maid but as long as we don’t address some of these issues, this will not be the last time. Unless of course, she is mentally disturbed and requires medical attention.

Jamie
It shows us something that has been commented upon for ages. As modernity comes to us, our humanity slips away. Society is reflected in that woman’s actions - an abused child herself, probably, she does not know any other way to deal with the world except to lash out.
We are fast running out of good people to entrust our children with; we do not know what a good person should do to earn that lable and so we employ the first desperate girl who will take the least pay.

Eugene Mugisha
Frustration. Stemming from the dire and desprate circumstances more and more people are finding themselves in these days, it is not surprising that someone who was trustable enough at some point to be left alone with a baby would turn on that same baby for something she has probably overlooked (as normal) a thousand and one times. There is a ticking time bomb waiting to explode in this nation, and the cause of it is unemployment.

Andrew Wallace
I strongly believe that the underlying problem is bad personal experiences as kids themselves. Such people have most likely been brutalized, violently dominated, probably witnessed family members being violently attacked, they grew up to learn that a violent response to provocation is their personal responsibility.
Eventually, growing belligerent, filled with rage and fantasies of revenge, they resolve to counter serious provocation with serious violence themselves and thus believe that victory gains them the fearful respect of their victims.
This terrifying child experience of violent notoriety makes these people feel invulnerable and deepens their resolve to use violence not only in fear and self-defense but also in anger, frustration or merely as an expression of disrespect.

The guys
Jamie, the realist: 36. Married, father of two.
Eugene Mugisha: 29, the dating guru.
Benjie: 27, single
Ivan Okuda: 20, at university.
Andrew Wallace: 28, just married.